Workaholic women?

prototype · October 6, 2012, 7:05am

Re: Workaholic women?

Most women dont like my views , but having had a successful career, I realized in time that I dont want to be a man and a woman at the same time , all through my life.

I continued working after marriage for a while, but soon realized I am handling a very hectic job, plus keeping home and focusing on family .. both demanding equal efficiency. At which point I decided to prioritise home and family .. initially finance was an issue since we were too used to a certain lifestyle.. but then with time we learnt to manage our finances in a good way without letting our lifestyle getting affected.

In short, raising kids is a full time responsiblity. running a home is a highly challenging task . I dislike men who consider a working independent woman to be a degree higher then a housewife. I fail to understand why a woman is expected to be perfect in every aspect of life. While men can gain all the recognition in the world by just having a strong career.

An educated, sophisticated woman should be perfect material for marriage rather then gauging her on her career building and money making ability.

By nature and religion, Men are the breadwinners and they are given the status and responsibility of being the head of their family .. they are expected to help around the household but its never expected of them to manage both work and home to the same level of efficiency, similarly should be the case with women. But unfortunately women have been exploited to such a level that they dont feel their success in homemaking , rather they are seen to be put down on those skills and forced to consider themselves successful if they are being a man and a woman at the same time to equal levels of efficiency !!

EXACTLY my thoughts and my reasoning behind having a break from my medical career/hospital job for few years until my kids are school-going and able to study/take care of themselves independantly IA .. hospitals can run perfectly even if I am not there to work but my home and family needs me and I know I cannot do justice with either if I decide to work right now. I absolutely am not in favour of leaving kids with grandparents or nanny/maids unless I need to earn as a breadwinner and work. I have people in family who have this ‘passion’ of working/doing their PhD’s and what not and have neglected kids and house back home and still are considered ‘himmat wali’ for working when they dont need to and cannot keep a balance.