Wanting to work doesn’t mean you want to be the equivalent of a man. Running a home is a really challenging task, but it’s also something not every woman will be upto. Men are never judged for their lack of skills in running a successful household but women always are regardless of whether they work or not. Everyone has their individual strengths and I think it should be ok if a woman feels her strength is in working and not neccessarily in running a home perfectly. Thats where the partnership in marriage comes in and you have to rely on both people to put in their share of the work. I think its great that you got the option to do both things and make a choice but a lot of women would be judged for making a different choice and thats where it becomes unfair.
I work because I love what I do, I’m good at it and because I think I bring value to my employers. I simply can’t stand cooking, cleaning, taking care of a house etc. But I am always in awe of the women who are able to do so and do it so well. I’ve seen a lot of women take pride in the way they run their house from the way they decorate, to their cooking, to the discipline they raise their kids with, etc. I don’t think anyone devalues what a difficult task running a household is and the contribution women make. Even if I wasn’t working I don’t think I would be up to the challenge on my own.
I just think people should play to their strengths regardless of gender and those strengths are not going to be the same for everyone.