The article talks about “work spouses” and their role in a person’s life as well as the need to set certain boundaries.
Now before y’all get into a tizzy about opposite gendered people spending so much time with someone other than their real spouse, the article says a work spouse can be of the same sex and the relationship is usually TOTALLY platonic.
So how many of you have a work spouse? You know, that one colleague who knows nearly as much about you as your spouse? Does it affect your relationship with your real-life partner?
They were indeed a
fortunate lot
those who found that
love was task enough
or those who could find a
vocation they could have
I too kept myself
occupied all my life
with a little bit of love
and a little bit of work
And always there was
work to be done when it
was time for love
And love was naught but
a hindrance in the way of
work
And then it was enough
and in one fell swoop
I Stopped , leaving love
and work both half
Undone !
I read an article on this in some magazine as well.
The article gave example of a business owner who had a female manager that pretty much ran the entire operation. Wife was worried initially but later realized that she was an incredible asset to their business and the relationship her husband had with her was purely platonic.
I've never been in this situation so I can't comment too well. I can understand the issues though.
Interesting.. didn't know but I think I do have a work spouse!!!the only difference is people usually think she is my mother because we are so close at both personal and professional level!
I don't have a "work spouse" but my SO does. The first time I met her...I hated her! From SO tells me, she's amazing at her job and helps out SO often. I have no idea how she is at work....but outside work, in social situations, in my opinion she's selfish and a attention-whore (I've met her twice in social situations).
SO knows I don't like her as a person. But I trust my SO and I have no reason to believe that they're anything more than platonic co-workers. He doesn't hang out with her outside of work unless its an gathering for their department (ie. Christmas parties, farewell parties etc.). Now and then they go to Starbucks after work but he always tells me about it. Although SO tells me what's going on at his work, not being in his field, I can't provide the type of support/advice he needs at times. But I do keep my "eye" on her/their "relationship"......the same way I keep my eye on all his other female friends. If I feel something is inappropriate, I don't hesitate to discuss it with him. And he definately doesn't do "overnight" trips with her. He wanted to go to a weekend conference and when I found out she was also going (it would've been just the 2 of them from their dept), I told him I didn't want him going unless I went with him. Since I was unable to take time off from my work, he ended up not going to the conference.
Yeah I saw that article....umm yeah I think I had a work spouse....maybe even 2 of them....hmmmm. It's healthy if its platonic and professiional and like the article says, there shouldnt be anything you can't tell your spouse...