Re: Work and Socialization
Wow – this reminds me so much of an earlier workplace… I can totally relate! In a situation like this, there’s no easy / diplomatic way to decline the social gatherings without creating any animosity.
Moreover, if it’s such a tightly knit group, then chances are that the boundaries between work time and personal time are rather thin and there’s a lot that goes on within the group outside the work environment that has direct consequences at work. Your image of being a team player and being a cordial colleague at the workplace tend to get associated with how you behave outside as well. I’m not saying this is right, but I’ve seen this first hand –its part of certain corporate cultures. This clan style culture has an orientation towards mutual trust and a sense of obligation, and personal characteristics that show flexibility, sensitivity, and concern for people are rewarded implicitly and explicitly.
Umar bhai, I am glad someone can relate! Its a double edged sword that many people do not recognize. The boundaries do not exist. I am usually more than happy to fit in this environment, its just certain times where one needs a break.
I don't want to bash these guys because I have a LOT of flexibility when working with them. I have been able to get many personal things done during 'business hours,' my colleagues have gone above and beyond to help me, and I truly enjoy their company. I think I'll invite them to my place next weekend. That way I won't have to leave the house or hang out at a lounge or a similar venue.