How many of you ladies returned to work after having a baby? and if so, how many months did you take off for maternity leave?
Ive been in my new role for about 4 months now (it’ll be 6 before i go on leave) and im contemplating on either taking 6 months off or a year (prob not a year)… im also contemplating on looking for another job for when i return.. as im kinda over this one… prob not such a wise idea, but khair.. will ponder over it more once i have bubz…
Sadzz, when I got pregnant, I had no idea how much work a baby is and how much a baby needs a mother.
I only learned by experience, 6 months or one year will seem like a long period right now, but when u are in the middle of it, you may think differently.
At first I wanted to take one year (here we can have up to 2 and half years of maternity leave) and join our old job again.
Now she is one year and will not leave me for more than 2-3 yours and that only if my mother/husband takes care of her! I extended it to 1 and half years, if she gets a kindergarten place, I will begin to work again, at first maybe parttime for an year and then full time again.
Thats my plan, but I know that you might have other plans.
Sadzz, you read my mind. What type of company do you work for? My company only gives 6 weeks natural/8 weeks C-section off for maternity leave that's paid. After that I can apply for leave of absence under FMLA but that depends on aproval but it will be unpaid. Let's see, I am very nervous about that, but I am waiting to have the baby to see how I feel. I'd love to be home with the baby, but I also like working, so I am no sure what I will end up doing. Like mentioned I am very concerned about whom to leave the baby with, initially I was recommended some very good childcare facilities...but I think im leaning towards a nanny type/babysitter that comes to my house each day and watches my baby until we get home. I do have family here, but everyone works, so no real baby-sitting help. :(
I do have faith, that whatever the case, it will work out. Allah is watching over us and it'll be fine when we get to it.
I do know that after the baby is born, I also want to look for a new job, that's closer to home. The good thing right now is my manager is very understanding and very flexible on letting me leave wen I don feel good or have doctor visits without any hassle.
we are entitled to a year of maternity leave but cus ive only been here for a very short time (less than a year) im not even going to get paid maternity leave (which depending on the company u work for.. varies from 2 weeks to 3 months paid leave... and i wont be getting any)..
initially i had planned to take a year off.. well 6 months off and then come back and work part-time for 6 months.. but my manager got made redundant and now the situation has kinda changed... she had offered me a lot of benefits which the current management is not mentioning at all...
my parents are here, so im not too fussed about finding childcare and things but im concerned about whether i'll be able to leave a 6 months bubz at home.. well away from me.. my mum is gorgeous at looking after kids.. and with my bhabhi just having one 5 weeks ago, it'd be great for mum and bhabhi to have another tot in the house to take care of.. it'll give my bubz time to bond with my mum too.. which i really want..
its just hard these days surviving on one persons income.. Alhamdulillah we're doing really well neways but just the financial burden on one person can be daunting, and i dont want hubster to go thru that... its not really fair.
So far, im thinking 6 months... will see what happens when im 5 months into it :)
its just hard these days surviving on one persons income.. Alhamdulillah we're doing really well neways but just the financial burden on one person can be daunting, and i dont want hubster to go thru that... its not really fair.
So far, im thinking 6 months... will see what happens when im 5 months into it :)
I can understand your concern, its not easy living on on person's income.
So if your mom and bhabi can take care of your kiddo, then working part time should not be a problem. My ami's age and health and my father's sickness was the reason I don't want to leave my daugther daily with my parents, otherwise grandparents is so good as a mother when searching for alternatives to childcare.
^ whose saying the hubby doesnt help out? thats a wild assumption
we're talking about us as women and life after a child.. how to manage work and a baby... we can open another thread dealing with how much a hubby can help with a baby... this thread has nothing to do with whether a hubby helps out or not... im sure most do neways..
I've also worked the better part of my life. These days it's part-time (3 days a week) and to be honest I love it like this. I will stop working all together when I have a baby. I've seen my sister getting back to work after my bhaanja was a year old. She started off part-time but after just a few months she quit her job because she couldn't bring herself to leave her baby at a child care facility (even though she was well known to my sis). Now she's a stay-at-home mum and loves it. Like me she was used to working full-time and it did take her some time to get used to stay home. But honestly I think a baby really needs his/her mum unconditionally for the first few years at least.
Yeah but how about someone posting advice for mums who like to work, but also work, as they are just starting out, and 1 income isn't enough. So confused still on what to do.