Re: Work After Marriage
this is so pervey
LOLOL. Why didn’t I see this before. 
Good laugh.
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so you mean that hubbies has to work outside the home as well as inside the home. and what is the role of a women than??
There should be some balance. Man should work out and women should work at home to balance the life.
this is so pervey
you know, you got to talk once in a while.
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If your wifie is a "housewife" then men have to do atleast 25% of the house work!
If your wifie is a "working woman" then both have to to do 50/50 of the house work.
The one imp thing men always forget is that house work is much much harder than office or whatever work. Its a work out! So yes the man should put some hand in!
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The stress seems to be on Jharoo! ODD!?
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Thi can’t be a serious thread 
so you mean that hubbies has to work outside the home as well as inside the home. and what is the role of a women than??
There should be some balance. Man should work out and women should work at home to balance the life.
Forget what they "Should" do, i have mostly seen women who work outside the home and then take care of the home as well. More power to those super women
Ohh believe it MKD its all serious, and no joke!
1 theres nothing to feel shy about when hooverin/Brushing/jaroo is there??!...i’d prefer if the room to be unoccupied so I can do it properly! Lol wouldn’t really want an audience I guess!
2 washin your undies shouldn’t really be an issue!...its not something you tend to do with everyone watching, and its normally left for the ladies in the house to sort!
3 lock the door so noone walk in on you!
I want to ask the girls few questions. Experience after marriage in joint family
1 When you start work at home after marriage. Like cooking, washing, ironing, sweeping.
I started even before marriage, my MIL would make me come over on the weekends to clean and do jharoo because she has no daughters and only one son and she has a bad leg and a sore kamar and she would also make me do maalish.
2 How you mange when you are sweeping with jharoo and there are people in the room. did you feel shy.
I tell them to put their legs up while I do jharoo, can't miss any corners or my saasso maa starts having asthaama attacks in her old age
3 Washing your under garments while people are there.
the other people are just the other women from the muhalla- we always wash together and only when the men are not home.
4 If you forget to lock the room while changing and someone comes in.
there are no locks.... :(
The one imp thing men always forget is that house work is much much harder than office or whatever work. Its a work out! So yes the man should put some hand in!
Uh, unless you have little monsters, or lazy-ass useless in laws..then house work is NOT hard.
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ALI USMAN!
what THE HELL are you to doing, brainwashing us!
WAIT…WAITT are those your dream wifiesss! I THINK SOOO!!!
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Gia you should respect those women equally.
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Well i can imagine ur thinking Ali...I know guy'z mentality is like this ..Even in the 21st century they want us such things..Also in islam there is no household duties for women.
Aik larki ka yehi farz hai k wo apnay hubby ko khush rakhay and us k liye tayyar hukar and sanwar kar bethay , even bringing up child is also man's duty.
I have a question : Why u guyz marry to educated girls?? You people should have to marry with a matric pass girl who can do these things happily.
I want to ask the girls few questions. Experience after marriage in joint family
2 How you mange when you are sweeping with jharoo and there are people in the room. did you feel shy..
These flawless soft hands have never held a jharoo. My hubby got me this lady called MIL instead...cho chweet!
3 Washing your under garments while people are there.
...and then using the same water to boil rice in....saves money
4 If you forget to lock the room while changing and someone comes in.
You ask them to lock it behind them. duh.
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Look for me uneducated girl has also the same respect as an educated girl. Why you thing that working with hands is not respectable and should be done by uneducated girl. Why you thing that you are superior than and uneducated girl?
Quaid also say work work work.
There is no shame in work with hands.
Do you thing that the above girls are less than you because they are not educated and they are doing work with hand.
I am not saying that you must do all these. but if there is a situation like you are in a *village * and there are no machines available than you have to work with hands. Do you say that i am an educated girl so i will not do any work with hand??
Very wierd and odd questions.
yes PS is right a fazool thread to be opened up
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Look for me uneducated girl has also the same respect as an educated girl. Why you thing that working with hands is not respectable and should be done by uneducated girl. Why you thing that you are superior than and uneducated girl? Quaid also say work work work. There is no shame in work with hands. Do you thing that the above girls are less than you because they are not educated and they are doing work with hand. I am not saying that you must do all these. but if there is a situation like you are in a *village * and there are no machines available than you have to work with hands. Do you say that i am an educated girl so i will not do any work with hand??
No one thinks an uneducated girl is inferior to an educated one and thus she should work. If there's "no shame in working with hands", then I would like to see YOU stay at home while your wife works- do everything she would do, like ironing her clothes, making breakfast and packing her lunch, dishes, having dinner on time, keeping everything spotless etc for just one week, and you will see the difference. The problem is not that us girls think that the uneducated ones are less than us, it's that some men think the job of housework is less than them yet they argue it's the same. Also I think what DA meant was that why marry an educated girl whose efforts would go to waste if all you want her to do is clean up her husband's mess.
Here are some differences.
1) the hours are continuous - work starts from before everyone wakes to after everyone sleeps
2) no vacation, even when on vacation
3) criticism comes from the people you love, and ironically everything you do is because you love them.
4) are expected to do things that are pretty gross: washing dirty underwear, cleaning vomit, etc.
5) when husband/kids are stressed, they take it out on wife/mother- e.g. husband that is stressed at work getting angry that his clothes are not clean.
6) Often her efforts are overlooked, her dreams are sacrificed silently, and still she's asked why she can't lose weight or why the house isn't cleaner.
You are walking into dangerous territories with this topic here. The thing is usually not that women find being expected to do housework degrading, but more the lack of acknowledgement that the work that they do, like telling the the wife at 7 am to iron a shirt, then shouting at her for making breakfast late and making you late. usually, a lot of the stuff a housewife does becomes unappreciated and not respected by her husband and family. The line "you were at home, what did you do all day?" gets thrown about.
You are right, there is no shame in working with hands. It's not that the person feels like a servant when doing the work, it's that sometimes they are treated like that.
Sorry to go off topic and for long post.
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I am not saying to be perfect at 7am iron the shirt etc etc.
I am not saying that house work in less than office.
To make a balance in life man is working outside the home and women is working inside the home. To be more true man is working outside and also help inside the home.
But why are you so angry to see a woman washing cloths and dishes with hand. Why you consider it inferior. It is also respectful.