Women's Second Marriage!

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Re: Women’s Second Marriage!

@ekumunng

Its the mind set of the Hindu society of the sub continent. Hinduism does not encourage remarriage of women and we are aware of the trend where wife used to burn when her husband died. Living here for centuries has clouded our mind and even being a Muslim we have adopted that mentality. Divorced women are looked down upon by Hindu society not in Islam but we are more concerned with the tradition of the land than what our religion teaches.

Hinduism also encourages monogamy, and this trend has also been picked up by our society. Second marriage by a man becomes such a scandalous and serious issue that most men know that they will have only one marriage in their lifetime. With one chance obviously the choice will be a virgin/unmarried woman and divorced women will be overlooked.

Before accusing me of any evil please note that at anytime, the number of women in society are greater than number of men, and with divorce issue, there will be more women waiting for marriage or remarriage. When second marriage of man becomes impossible then divorced women will have less chance of remarrying when virgin/unmarried women are present in large numbers.

Middle east is relatively better where despite divorce women can remarry and men also have no issue with it. But it must also be noted that it is quite common in middle east countries for a man to have more than one wife.

Sorry I don’t agree. Even though I am a man.
Hindus have historically aleays been more polygamous than Muslims. If you check the statistics of the 1950s and 1970s the proportion of polygamous Hindus were greater than the proportion of polygamous Muslims. And many Hindu gods were polygamous, some of them with 10000 wives and many Hindus back in the old days used to have multiple wives, with their scriptures allowing them 3.
And simply because polygamy is prevalent in the upper classes of the gulf countries does not mean women there take kindly to it. For instance, a woman was in the news for committing suicide with her kids when her husband took a second wife in Jeddah. Another woman burnt her husband’s wedding reception in Dubai. Attitudes to polygamy there are similar to the ones in Pakistan. In Egypt for instance polygamy is seen as the betrayal of the first wife for the pleasure of the husband and the second wife.
And does anyone actually bother checking the statistics??? Or do ppl still rely on Zakir Naik’s made-up statistics.
There are MORE men than women in the world today. For instance the ration of men to women in KSA is 112 men to 100 women and still the selfish rich sheikhs practise polygyny, that is why it is so hard for the middle class and poor men there to find a wife. They all marry the richer blokes.
I think you are feeling this way because you are going through a divorce. Not ALL men have those kind of attitudes. There are plenty of men who are divorced and widowed. There are also some men who wouldn’t mind marrying with a non-virgin with kids. Even though I am single neither me or my family members would mind me marrying a divorcee even though I am single. But maybe thats because I am born and raised in the west so I am not obsessed with virginity.
My divorced aunt of 10 years just got remarried recently and she is happy. She would have been happy without remarrying too as she made use of her education and worked rather than rely on any man.