Women Vs Men

Theorist · April 1, 2014, 11:16pm

Re: Women Vs Men

I think men generally feel like things r more in their control, and are easier to let go if the situation is not in their control. So only big consequential issues are issues and everything else is just white noise.
But generally women sacrifice more (tiny things or big things, time for themselves, hopes, dreams, whatever) and keep score more that’s why the current issue is not the only issue it’s all the negative points that have accrued over time plus what’s going on right now, that’s why it seems every issue is big. The venting or getting pissed off is never only about ammi nay kal yay kaha, it’s ammi hamesha yay kehti haen, ya hubby Maeri baat nahi suntay, it’s wo hamesha Maeri baat nahi suntay. So yes part reality and part mountains out of molehills. You add to that GS members fueling the fire and u have mt. Everests springing up all over the place. With things like “I wouldn’t put up with that” or " the day my husband does this/that will be the day I’m out the door" “leave him, get a job, become financially independent and leave him”. And no I don’t think posters decide life altering decisions going on what GS members say but still it fuels the fire in their head.
E.g the member who’d made peace with her husband cheating or potentially cheating, ppl were trying to get her riled up again about it, when her earlier posts had made it so clear what mental anguish she was in.

Very nicely said! I think this should be a sticky in Life1.