why is that women have soo many problems in daily life and men don’t have any ? they are ok with anything anywhere?
is it women complain more or is it men are more silent or is it the women are really pressurized and they want to burst out everything.
or is it that men do not like to share or sharing is more common in women ?
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Who are you asking this to?
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and says who that men have less problems? men absorb pressures better probably. They do not dwell on their problems. They know how to move on.
agree?
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Depends on who you know. I meet a lot of whiney men and men who are crybabies. And women who won't talk no matter what you ask them.
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Women tend to be more vocal about their problems and stuff. Men tend to not vocalise problems and would rather suffer in silence.
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I think men have too much ego to admit they have failed at a relationship. i always hear women complain and men seem to think everything is fine. same happened with me and my ex, even till the last few days of our relationship, he seemed to think we were perfectly ok! men can be very oblivious sometimes. either they have too much ego or they just don't notice things like we do.
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I think men generally feel like things r more in their control, and are easier to let go if the situation is not in their control. So only big consequential issues are issues and everything else is just white noise.
But generally women sacrifice more (tiny things or big things, time for themselves, hopes, dreams, whatever) and keep score more that's why the current issue is not the only issue it's all the negative points that have accrued over time plus what's going on right now, that's why it seems every issue is big. The venting or getting pissed off is never only about ammi nay kal yay kaha, it's ammi hamesha yay kehti haen, ya hubby Maeri baat nahi suntay, it's wo hamesha Maeri baat nahi suntay. So yes part reality and part mountains out of molehills. You add to that GS members fueling the fire and u have mt. Everests springing up all over the place. With things like "I wouldn't put up with that" or " the day my husband does this/that will be the day I'm out the door" "leave him, get a job, become financially independent and leave him". And no I don't think posters decide life altering decisions going on what GS members say but still it fuels the fire in their head.
E.g the member who'd made peace with her husband cheating or potentially cheating, ppl were trying to get her riled up again about it, when her earlier posts had made it so clear what mental anguish she was in.
This should explain it
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I think men have too much ego to admit they have failed at a relationship. i always hear women complain and men seem to think everything is fine. same happened with me and my ex, even till the last few days of our relationship, he seemed to think we were perfectly ok! men can be very oblivious sometimes. either they have too much ego or they just don't notice things like we do.
I don't think it is ego necessarily. If anything, women probably have too much of it and they'd rather simmer with resentment and anger until they can no longer hold in it. For men, they think once they talk about it, the problem is gone. They don't understand the emotional needs of a woman, which can be overwhelming and scary to most men. They shrug it off until it happens again and again and again. Each time this happens, she would likely start internalizing her emotions. At some point, she realizes she can do without him and leaves. This baffles him and he has no idea what just happened!
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I think men generally feel like things r more in their control, and are easier to let go if the situation is not in their control. So only big consequential issues are issues and everything else is just white noise. But generally women sacrifice more (tiny things or big things, time for themselves, hopes, dreams, whatever) and keep score more that's why the current issue is not the only issue it's all the negative points that have accrued over time plus what's going on right now, that's why it seems every issue is big. The venting or getting pissed off is never only about ammi nay kal yay kaha, it's ammi hamesha yay kehti haen, ya hubby Maeri baat nahi suntay, it's wo hamesha Maeri baat nahi suntay. So yes part reality and part mountains out of molehills. You add to that GS members fueling the fire and u have mt. Everests springing up all over the place. With things like "I wouldn't put up with that" or " the day my husband does this/that will be the day I'm out the door" "leave him, get a job, become financially independent and leave him". And no I don't think posters decide life altering decisions going on what GS members say but still it fuels the fire in their head. E.g the member who'd made peace with her husband cheating or potentially cheating, ppl were trying to get her riled up again about it, when her earlier posts had made it so clear what mental anguish she was in.
Very nicely said! I think this should be a sticky in Life1.
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In our culture, they're subjugated. This is something that has been confirmed in God knows how many studies. You keep subjugating and abusing a group of people, eventually they're gonna speak up.
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they both could be crybabies
they both could be silent-sufferers . end of debate.
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In our culture, they're subjugated. This is something that has been confirmed in God knows how many studies. You keep subjugating and abusing a group of people, eventually they're gonna speak up.
and yet western women are the most noisiest..
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and yet western women are the most noisiest..
Have to agree with. Doubt subjugation has much to do with how women feel. We are natural feelers. We feel everything more intensely.
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I think part of the reason that women are more vocal about their problems in comparison to men is that society is far more sympathetic towards them.
Exhibit A:
- A few months back a chap posted a couple of threads regarding relationship issues he was having with a potential prospect of his, which stemmed from cultural differences, and how the situation was frustrating him. The majority of the responses were rather mocking and told him to "grow up"and get over it.
Exhibit B:
- A couple of weeks ago a woman posted that her husband is not romantic and that she had even fantasised about leaving him for this reason. Loads of posters gave her advice and attempted to "explain" her husband's apparent lack of romance. If the poster had been male and he had stated that he fantasised about leaving his wife because she isn't romantic, the lynch mob would have been quite prepared, with pitchforks in hand, to tell him that he is being immature, ungrateful, and a terrible husband. I'm not so sure that they would have had taken pains to explain to him that life isn't a romantic comedy and that his wife's personality simply isn't of the romantic variety and he must learn to accept her.
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. over thinking
. needs attention
. self pity
This is vicious circle
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Not even a page and the BS level is reaching Sky High.
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Women like to talk... about everything. In particular, if they're not happy about something then they REALLY want to talk about it. Especially if it's a man who's made them unhappy. Then the REALLY need him to know exactly how they're feeling. Sometimes they'll get all their friends to surround the guy and then they'll ALL tell him exactly how she's feeling.
Feelings, that's something women love to talk about... how am I feeling, how are you feeling, how are we feeling, how are your feelings for me, how are my feelings for you, what are you feeling right now and assorted other variations on the same theme.
Men on the other hand don't like to talk about feelings, we're not comfortable with it. Society dictates men should be the strong SILENT type. That's why whenever a woman asks a guy "Hey whats wrong?" Nine times out of ten he'll reply "Nothing". We prefer to hold it inside, keep it to ourselves, brooding, allowing the issue to fester, to grow inside of us like some insidious tumor...... this is exactly why women tend to live longer than men!
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battle of the sexes needs to end. women and men compliment each other, complete each other and both are necessary for the human race to continue. both have important roles in nature, culture and evolution. so lets just please stop trying to one up the other.
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this is exactly why women tend to live longer than men!
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Great science. Me Like.