Women do not

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yawns seems to me, 3 of u are going on more personal than discussing topic on hand..
excessive usage of “you” and stuff :chai:

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confused. i will leave the dude alone, if he would stop making assertive and honest women and their piety not look like soemthing women do for fun.

a right to be discussing an opinion is one thing, but nbn needs to really watch his tongue.

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Lol what random replys...

Farwah...
Firstly your analysis of the whole trial and error thing is very black and white which in reality is never the case...i wrote a thread a while back about guys who are attacked for simply not reciprocating feelings...so does that count as what you suggest is misleading somone...say for instance im going out with someone...i may really want to be with that person but that person realises i wasnt for them...now for me she was great for her i was an error and she moves on...you cant guarantee that you will reciprocate feelings so no-one should be attacked for breaking something off...i cant call her a ***** and say she misled me...shes not a ***** cos she didnt share my feelings per say...

As for actual misleading fair enough...however a lot of the time people see what they want to see not how things actually are...sometimes you wont even imply that you've moved to the next level but they will see it that way...sometimes girls mislead themsleves...

Im not denying some men are sly about things but girls are equally to blame...i knew a girl that got drunk and slept with this boy at uni...he never bothered with her again and she got upset...his argument is it was a one night thing and her argument was i liked him...you had your little drunken bang and to make yourself feel a little less cheap you want to create something out of nothing...of course though the guy gets blamed for leading her on blah blah...

Men can be pricks but a lot of the time girls mislead themsleves...another example...a work colleague told a girl he couldnt commit...and he would cheat on her...she got with him anyway and he cheated on her...he said i told you what im like so how can you moan at me now...she said i thought i meant more to you than that...and he said not really...she saw what she wanted to see...

And if you think this is spouting hatred i dont think so...im simply defending the fact that men arent always wrong...

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Oh and to continue Trial and Error is how most people end up together...
Imeet a girl i like her then i continue and i get with her or i meet a girl and realise i dont like her and i dont get with her...
All iv said is that numbers isnt relevant really and my point to Dushwari is if she wants to look down at me cos iv met a few girls i can simply look down at the fact that shes also met a guy...quite simple really...
Its crucial to be on the same page but from experience the fact is you cant guarantee you will be on the same page...now say somethings fun for me and i get with a girl and shes knows thats why we're together...that doesnt stop her from saying say after a while that she may have feelings for me...now say im clear about what it is that i seek then she cant moan cos i dont want anything else from her...do you get what i mean?...

And as for kicking a girl when shes down...i dont really care...she still has a chip on her shoulder and acts as if her relationships are superior to anyone elses...

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Dushwari...
Actually devotion isnt really an issue for me considering i have been in monogamous relationships...
As for me seeing relationships as trial and error...you really need to work on your literacy skills...getting to a relationship is trial and error...i meet plenty of girls but i dont get with all of them...some of them i wont like some of them i will and some wont like me and some will etc...the trial is finding a girl who likes you and you like them...the error is getting rid of the ones you dont like even say if they like you...
Lol even my friend who met girls Islamically for years would understand this basis point...the first person you meet is not neccesarily going to be the one...you may have to meet a few people before you meet someone special and considering you jsut flopped in your relationship i would have assumed you would understand that...fact is that guy was your error and now you move on...next guy might be an idiot too...he may like you but you dont like him so you give him the chop...nothing wrong with that at all...and then ten guys later you may find someone who you actually like and they like you...

Anyway as for your obsessing over this guy my point is its hardly what is expected from sone who claims to be a feminist, indpendent and sure-footed...like i said you know who you want to be you just need to realise that isnt you...

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Dude why do u keep picking on her? It seems like YOU'RE the one with the chip on your shoulder, not her. She's chosen a different way to "grieve" over her relationships than you might have chosen, that gives you no right to kick her while she's down. It's just making you look like a jerk rather than the "open minded, relaxed, non judgemental person you so desparately try to be.

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Mrs Saieen...
Thankyou for your passage...so what i gather from your post is I have the chip on my shoulder, im being harsh on a poor grieving girl and it is my ultimate desire to be open minded, relaxed and on judgemental...

Firstly as for your quote over what i desire to be...when have i ever stated a desire to be any of the things your posting?...when have i even claimed to be any of these things?...if you going to bring up an argument little girl atleast have a basis...throwing around random points gets you knowhere...
Heres the difference...I pointed out contradictions in somebody who constantly claims to be a feminst, sure-footed and independent...since you wanted to match the argument little girl why dont you show me where i have contradicted myself in any way?...please show me where i have espused myself to be the greatest of open-minded, non judgemental relaxed individuals...i sincerely hope no-one ever told you you would make a good lawyer...

Secondly as for me having a chip on my shoulder...Read the thread and read it carefully...i simply stated that trial and error was normal for everybody cos you wont always get it right first time...iv also stated that in relationships it difficult to always reciprocate...you wont always like everybody and everybody wont always like you...its a fairly simple argument...but our Goddess over here who believes arrogantly that not getting it right first time is equivalent to dishonesty and waywardness...Considering Dushwari can provide me with no example of anything she has got right i find it highly ironic how she can poke her nose at me or anyone for not getting it right every time...

And thats the point for someone thats just been dumped she is awfully judgemental of everyone elses failures and awfully arrogant over god knows what...the girl just got dumped...the girl feels she has never made a mistake and iv simply stated that life isnt so black and white so if that makes me a jerk then so be it...

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thanks mrs saieen for your response.
i truly appreciate this.
dushwari

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DAYUM PPL
u all need 2 relax
y the hell u all goin crazy on naughty by nature
hes jus frikn expressin his opinion like evrybdy else
dun need 2 go hatin on peepz

CALM DOWN

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Ok, show is over. Life1 is a forum for everyone and I am witnessing that for quite a while its being hijack. If someone wants to vent or express their opinion about someone/situation use ALLDOST/ journals. This forum is for everyone and you should open threads where everyone can have their say. From now on, I am not going to allow any "my way or the highway" threads nor any that contains personal or situational vent where guppies do not have a chance to fully contribute.

Thanks.