I guess if he made it clear that he isn't exclusive with any of them and they don't care, then it's cool. But you didn't say he did that. According to the original post, he didn't mention one way or the other regarding exclusivity, so the girls should just pick up on that? Also, were these dates getting physical in any way (hand holding, kissing etc)?.. Because that may give one of the girls the impression that he is being exclusive. Not enough info to make an informed decision IMO.
If it was just dinner, brunch, movies, with nothing else progressing physically and all they did was talk, then it's all good.
You know, I thought you're only supposed to consider one girl at a time?! And larki walay are also supposed to make a decision about one rishta before moving on.
I remember reading this one hadith where Prophet SAW told one of the sahabis (?) that if they know that a proposal is being considered for a girl, they should wait on a decision for that before sending in another rishta. I can't remember the whole thing though.
CM how do u get so much free time to have lunch,dinner and brunch with three different women...oh n btw how do u not mix up their names n specifications
Hm, as long as the conversations don't get too flirtish or too romantic. I mean, would you want your sister to be one of 10 girls a guy is courting, romancing, taking around town? Probably not. So if you make it clear what you're doing and why, and you don't get too involved with any one girl until you've made your selection, I don't think anyone would hold it against you.
Especially these days where careers have taken over our lives, we DON'T have time to fall in love the old fashioned way. Pseudo-speed dating works way better, so you don't waste your time on the wrong person.
Its not cheating, but you could of stated that to the girls you were getting to know, That this is nothing romantic nothing serious and just a friendly date to get to know each other. But its not cheating.
well... not sure if this is cheating or not... but imo, the whole setup unnecessarily complicates a simple situation. even if it is not cheating, it still looks bad and might be misunderstood despite the best of intentions. so, instead of meeting them one by one and being worried of getting caught and accused of cheating, try the following...
just take all three of them out together. sit them down and be completely upfront. "ladies we all know why we're here. you three (or four or five, etc) are going to compete for my affections. so, go on wow me. your time starts now".
there you go. you were completely honest and upfront... can't be accused of cheating. and you're simply unleashing the free market forces... supply and demand. let the best woman win herself a CM. win win for everybody.