Does it seem desperate or does it show initiative? Just to put a voice with a face.
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There is nothing wrong with it.
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How do men see a woman making the first move though
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My wife proposed me, my boys gf initiated and girls are going after the guys they like aggressively. Don’t wait around for things to happen make them happen. Men are dumb, if you know how to work their buttons they fall like timber.
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What exactly did these women do to work your sons’ buttons or what did you wife do to work your buttons?
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I think women have always made the first move but they were smart about it and let the guy still feel like he was pursuing her and made him do the chasing.
If you give some bait they will come.
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Men are defenseless against women, once you get them spending time with you and show them affection and give them what they need you can have them for ever. Safy wasn’t at all into Clara to begin with and now they are spending so much time together he is getting very close to her. I was on a rebound from a long term relationship and told my wife that it is not possible for me to love yet and she told me that is fine. She showed a lot of affection and caring and things changed drastically.
So if you are liking this guy make friends with his friends this way you are around him all the time than make the move on him. We all like people who are like us so pretend to be like him. Once you own his behind then you can change. Clara was very warm towards us also, guys like girls their families validate also. You can also get them by craftily playing with their ego.
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Honestly think it isn’t a good idea. The easier you make things for them, the more likely you’ll wind up dealing with someone who’s just trying to have some fun and doesn’t genuinely like you.
If he is into you, he will contact you. You shouldn’t be lifting a finger.
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Those days are over, life is competitive and there are girls competing for great guys and if you don’t fight for what could be yours then you are done. Listen to @Illuminate she is the real smart one. The girls with the best guys weren’t waiting around.
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ignorance is bliss if you must know. Go ahead you can go into more detail about the whole baiting. Give me examples. I’m a total dunce when it comes to men. I might have had loads of unrequited love situations where the guy has no clue I liked him or like him.
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Women are the more emotional beings. I’m saying the majority not all. Women tolerate such bs to keep a relationship intact, adultery, zilch love, abuse for love. Majority of women are less practical so we are more inclined to get hurt.
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Weird but I called him and he was busy with his parents’ visiting(they don’t live in the States)so didn’t get to call me. We talked for 2 hours. He seems really interested because he keeps texting me but, I’m not rushing so we’ll see. I’m the super cautious type, don’t really fall for the lovey dovey stuff.
I guess it doesn’t matter who makes the first move, it’s the actions and what we say after making that move that matter. I’m keeping my options open and not rushing in at all. Thanks for the responses. They really helped.
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Then it’s wise to be less emotionally attached esp in the beginning when he hasn’t earned your trust or invested anything. Don’t give him things he hasn’t worked nor expect anything. Let him show you who he is. It’s important to stay firm in your values. People (men and women) will get away with things you let them get away with.
Things will work out fine and you’ll be okay, I’m sure! Good luck!
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All I know is things don’t happen and you have to make them happen. All the good catches are getting snagged away and our beautiful desi girls are waiting for the first move and pursuit. This little Guyanese Hindu girl went with a bunch of friends to my wife’s nephews house, they had a big house, he was fit and had a great career and she nailed him so hard. You want to catch a fish, take a shiny lure with you, they bite you reel them in, they fight let loose a bit and then reel in a bit more.
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I said I love you to the one I am with right now first, and it has been more than 3 and a half years now. go for it you never know!
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When that guy comes along that seems worth me giving up my single life, I’ll see. It has to be meant to be though. I haven’t come across a guy like that except one.
Marriage, where I will be with this person for the rest of my life, isn’t something I’ll rush into just because of that fear that
“All the good catches are getting snagged away”. I think the Almighty has chosen how our lives will be already and I’ll wait for that guy that I’m meant to be with.
One of my friends proposed to a guy herself, he never really loved or cared for her. Couldn’t give a flying fig about her. She was doing all the trying to make the marriage work, he didn’t feel he needed to so sometimes I feel like when a woman goes out of her way to make a guy hers, it can cause her even more pain later, in the future, within the marriage. She was more like a doormat and desperate to change herself to make the marriage work and for him. It did end in divorce. Not all relatonship where the woman made the first move are like this of course.
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You always have to wait for the right person who knows about respect and commitment. It really is becoming very tough for youngsters to find partners. Single life is much better than being attached to a person who is disrespectful and uncaring. I am glad you can take care of yourself, many parents raise girls who have been sheltered and can’t live independently.
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He was not a very nice guy. A decent human being does not marry someone then treat them like trush. He should not have married her. Her experience does not mean being the first to confess your feelings is wrong. it just has to be done sensibly and you should not force yourself on to someone. If it’s not mutual its best to let it go