Ok…Here it goes…If you are in a friendship with a dearest one ,who is not as white as you are or not as fair as you are…almost the contrary of you…but you still like him/her…you have not shown him/her to any one of your accquaintances…it’s almost a hidden affair…you are a bit scared & confused…that what the world would said…but whenever you think of someone with you …you find him/her infront of you…That “anjaana khouf” is with you that your parents would reject him/her…based on the fact that she is not “woh aik gori”…but of a different race…???What your heart/opinion would say to do???
Buddy you're not alone...there's lots of guys I know who are in this situation. They appear to be very serious about thegirl and want to marry her but are afraid of what their parents will think.
I personally am against interfaith marriage, but my advice to you (and everyone else in the same situation) is to go for it. Yes, it may be hard, to hurt your family and there is a chance your reputation may be ruined by certain people but what you get in return is far better than what you may be losing.
As for ur family--like i said, it will hurt them. However with time they may begin to realize that you are still their son and you should be with the one you love and what other people might say should not affect their love for you.
sara, why are u against interracial marriage?
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u never know...did u ever talk to ur parents about it? my parents have told us from teh start they want us to marry pakistanis...but make sure u tell her wat the situation is so she doesnt get hurt later on when she finds out shes being rejected cuz of her race..
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*Originally posted by Sara516: *
Buddy you're not alone...there's lots of guys I know who are in this situation. They appear to be very serious about thegirl and want to marry her but are afraid of what their parents will think.
I personally am against interracial marriage, but my advice to you (and everyone else in the same situation) is to go for it. Yes, it may be hard, to hurt your family and there is a chance your reputation may be ruined by certain people but what you get in return is far better than what you may be losing.
As for ur family--like i said, it will hurt them. However with time they may begin to realize that you are still their son and you should be with the one you love and what other people might say should not affect their love for you.
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Great thoughts Sara...thanks for the reply...i do agree interracial stuff is diff...sometimes impossible....but it's also diff to check yourself...
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Great thoughts Sara...thanks for the reply...
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No problem.
I'd post more, but that would go too much into what you told me ;)
look at the girl not at her race/color..jeez..some ppl here 
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No problem.
I'd post more, but that would go too much into what you told me ;)
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O'no this is enuff i guess then ;)
u may look at the girl as jus ta girl, but ur parents and neighbors and whatnot will see her as a “kaali” or “gori” and not even care that shes a good muslim or not …but desis r just stupid like that
why would u care abt what ur neighbors think?? with parents u gotta pay some heed..but heck if ur happy then nothing else matters :)
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why would u care abt what ur neighbors think?? with parents u gotta pay some heed..but heck if ur happy then nothing else matters :)
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i wouldn't care about what neighbors thought, but my parents do happen to care, and i care what my parents think...so it's a sticky situation there yah? :)
Who cares? I'm all for inter-racial relationships just not inter-religious ones.
hey Goliko, be a man Parents would find fault either way, so why not go with what you believe in. Loug kia kahain gay, culture, society, thats all bull crap. Parents do matter but then you aren’t committing a sin, eh.
And get over this complex that desi’s usually have with the skin tone.
marry someone out of my race. No thank you. :yukh:
A simple question is this girl worth putting your immediate family through pain and turmoil? If she is, go for it. If she isn't well you know your answer.
Goli ur so sweet lolz.
Anywayz like some1 said here dont look if he/she is white black or somit, the important thing is how the person is inside ;)
Lots of love Nilu.
I completely agree. :k:
Parents will find fault with the girl regardless unless she’s handpicked by them, in which case, chances are they’ll still eventually find something to complain about. If she’s a good person, is willing to accept you as you are and can even respect your parents, then go for it. Stand up for what you believe in.
If you aren’t willing to stand by her though through thick and thin then you should make that clear immediately and walk away. Nobody wants to be involved with a man who can’t stand up for them, especially over a petty and shallow reason like this.
What about desi girls in a interfaith marriage? Lets hear how they gonna break the news to parents.
The issue isn't about inter-faith marriages ... it's about an inter-racial involvement. If two people are Muslim, then I just don't see what the problem is. This is just my personal opinion though and I know for a lot of people here, culture is extremely important.