Re: Wives earning more than the husband−Does/would this affect their relationship?
When I was working part time I was earning more than my husband who was working full time-simply put my education got me further than his non-existant one.
It didn’t effect me as such; I was saving towards a mortgage for our first home so to me it wasn’t a biggie. My in-laws hid the fact I worked fullstop-according to their version of things I was in full time education and my husband was supporting everyone. Ha! Their so-called fake izzath/ego was bruised but to be honest I don’t see why anyone else should really matter. I did nothing wrong and if one is affected as such they need to get a grip. So although my husband in theory had no issue his family made a big song and dance out of it.
They still do that now-I cannot be given credit for anything and God forbid I am given respect for the fact I can work and earn-even if it’s less than my husband I should still be respected for it. Not all women are prepared to work and expect their husbands to earn and provide even if in reality they know it will take 15 extra years to settle compared to if they worked too.
A relationship is two way; a women if she wishes too and can do so without problems can earn and help towards the household IMHO . What works for one couple may not work for another. I don’t agree with forcing a women to work if she is expected to do all the other duties full time e.g. look after family, home, home school, do community stuff etc etc and then work on top.
As for husbands that don’t work; I believe that’s a separate issue and may be wise to dicuss in another thread.
Thank you for your input princess1983. I completely agree with the bold part.
How do you cope with your in-laws attitude though? And if your husband has no issues with it, why are they being so difficult about it?
I’m very career oriented and my income is already more than my soon to be. But I just fear it will affect our relationship in the wrong run, even though he’s quite understanding about it now.