Will you refuse a girl if...............

[mzprincess88]

Re: Will you refuse a girl if…

@gudiaali

So you go to a girl’s house for a proposal and everything looks good to you but you come to know that the girl sometimes go out for lunches with male colleagues. It is at times in a group setting like other female colleagues and male colleagues and at times it is just her with any of her male colleague. Her family is aware of this and this doesn’t mean a thing to them or her. Its just something like you want to go out for lunch and whoever feel the same goes along so sometimes it’s a whole group and at other times its just her and colleague. Now I want to ask is this something that is viewed negatively by the guys and their families? Do they form an impression of a girl as too advanced and can refuse her on this account?

Personally if we were looking for a girl for my brother and it came to light that the potential girl was having lunch alone with a colleague (on multiple occasions), most likely we would refuse her. No we are not too strict etc etc (even my mom was raised abroad so not newcomers or anything) BUT to me it just seems a bit inappropriate. I work in a high powered corporate environment and I never have, and never will, have lunch with a male colleague alone. I even avoid shaking hands with male clients, I’m just not comfortable with it and work and clients understand this so it’s never an issue. Basically what I’m saying is that the girl is not FORCED to interact alone with members of the opposite gender and if she is doing it at work, my brother probably wouldn’t be too comfortable with it nor would my family and I. However, if she had male friends at uni and was involved in group assignments etc where it was unavoidable that’s different but where it is avoidable it should be avoided. Each family thinks differently though.