Will you refuse a girl if...............

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Re: Will you refuse a girl if…

@nnabid

Lol - you don’t know me or my brother so I think I’m in a bit of a better decision to judge whether or not he has lunch with female colleagues now - don’t you think?

Also, living in Western society doesn’t mean you have to rid yourself of your moral and/or religious ideals. Both can still go hand in hand. While at uni and in the workplace, I managed to keep my distance from male colleagues to the extent that if there was a lunch-type scenario as described, I would happily eat alone rather than go on a lunch date with a male colleague. In fact, it was to such an extent that the male colleagues in my office KNEW the type of girl I was, and would be sure to keep a certain level of respect when I was around. Crass and crude jokes would be made at the lunch table - I know because my work desk was a little in front of it - but as I sat down, they would all discretely change the topic. Sometimes even jokingly comment that I am here so let’s keep the topic ‘clean’. If there was ever a work ‘do’ after hours, they would know that I wouldn’t come if the restaurant served alcohol - so they’d always ensure to choose a non-alcoholic restaurant. Pretty hard to do in London - but they did it out of respect for me.
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If you want to give in to societal pressure, then go ahead and fit in with the crowd. But if you want to live up to your morals - it’s not easy and it takes a bit of work and patience - but eventually it pays off.**

And by expecting the same standards FIRST from my brother than my would-be bhabhi - I think that doesn’t make me her dushman does it?

I respect your right to an opinion, but I am kind of taken aback by this notion of “caving to societal pressure”. IMO that’s extreme. Sometimes work is just work and not an assault on Islam.

I have about 6 appointments this week with various clients, appraisers, structural engineers and handymen…ALL male, which will require me to be alone, in an empty house, to get my job done. I have a closing on Friday, after which I will take my male client to lunch as we wait for his transaction to fund (for which my husband reminded me last night to save the receipt for tax purposes lol)…Is my character and morality to be judged by these actions?