Just before the wedding you find out that the woman you’re in love with suffers from a horrible eating disorder, what’d be your reaction?
Call off the wedding and leave her?
Get angry but still marry her?
Get disgusted but still marry her?
Help her without getting angry and disgusted?
Don’t care and don’t involve but still marry her?
For those who don’t know about Bulimia(I’m sure most of you do)…
These cycles often involve rapid and out-of-control eating, which may stop when the bulimic is interrupted by another person or the stomach hurts from overextension**, followed by self-induced vomiting or other forms of purging.** This cycle may be repeated several times a week or, in more serious cases, several times a day, and may directly cause:
Yeah it is a medical condition ...the person needs help ... and its not something catastrophic that can not be cured or anything ... help out the other person and be a positive impact on their life and they'll love you even more for that
my cousin suffered from it and let me tell you its agonizing for the family along with the victim, its a psychological disorder not just an eating disorder, it totally changed her personality so this is serious. her family and we were very very supportive of her in every way BUT until she herself was ready to take the plunge and make a change, all our support, love was useless. she did overcome it before she got married with a lot of professional help and she is mashallah healthy and all now but it was very tough.
i would say if she had been battling it and gotten married at the same time then it would be even harder for her and her fiance because it takes a toll on a person mentally as well, she was not in a 'normal' state of mind when she was going through this disorder and since marriage can be a stressful experience, it could have made it worse.
to answer the question the fiance might not know the enormity of the situation, thinking he/she can make a difference and change the person but sadly thats not easy. so i would say firstly, that the bullimic herself/himself should not get into marriage but put all their efforts into battling this disorder first, secondly if they do anyways and the fiance knows then the fiance needs to make sure that the partner is willing and eager to work on this with him, acknowledge and seek professional help and be willing to invest all that time and energy into this. if they are not, that its not a good idea, marriage comes with a lot of demands, expectations, responsibilities...its not a good idea to put an unwell person through this process.
I would agree with dramabaz, the one suffering from bulimia should seek professional help and overcome the problem BEFORE getting married. This could also act as an incentive to help overcome it, a goal.
People with established relationships find the situation very difficult to go through, it is very likely that it will be added pressure to a newly married couple when establishing a bond.
If you genuinely do love that person...then you would of course still marry them, and help him/her out in dealing with the situation, so you can both be happy and healthy together!
I was battling an eating disorder through most of my teens and let me tell you sometimes it only takes ONE person to get through to the person suffering from the disease in order to advocate change. If you love this girl it's the perfect opportunity to help her through something which potentially has the ability to ruin her lfe. By no means is it an easy task, however, I would encourage you to put in the effort.
I know a guy who married his fiance after she was diagnosed with Diabetes during their engagement period.
His mother said NO to her but he married her anyway.
Why? Because it could be you someday.
wow that's harsh (of the mom). Juvenile diabetes is neither genetic nor infectious. And it's a well controlled illness. I don't know why it would even be an issue, especially after they said yes. Good for him to stick to his word.
I know a guy who married his fiance after she was diagnosed with Diabetes during their engagement period.
His mother said NO to her but he married her anyway.
Why? Because it could be you someday.
This young woman married my cousin knowing about his serious illness, just after a year he passed away when their first child was on its way....it's heartbreaking. Diabetes is not a serious disease I guess but may be her fince's mum had some points.