Will you leave your wife if...

Lifestyle Relationships
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What the heck

Where did this come from

Curious wendy. Why do you pity his future wife?

You must pity a lot of men’s future wives.

Maybe pity yourself while youre at it. You dont know if your hubby would do the same.

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They dont think like that CEO.
They cant swap shoes with people to feel what it might be like if they were in their position.

To do that, one needs a soul.

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No, I wouldn't leave.. My husband is more important to me than that..

I'd probably adopt if we couldn't conceive.. I can't imagine not having kids at all but they wouldn't necessarily have to be my own kids biologically..

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My sister cannot bear children and I have the best brother-in-law there can be. He's been fantastic over the last 6 years. They might adopt a child soon.

I'm not married and I don't think I would leave a woman for that reason. God forbid, but there can be something wrong with me which makes me unable to make a baby. I won't feel superb if a woman left me because of that.

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which posts/“high moral” ladies are you guys refering to exactly? :konfused:

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The confusion is all mine.

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All those who said they wouldn’t leave their husbands?

As if the ‘average’ woman would do it..

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i am not leaving no wives.

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Kinda similar here, two of my aunts cannot have kids but Alhamdulillah they have been blessed with amazingly supportive husbands. I imagine not having lids eould have been a very big problem had their husbands been douches.

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[quote="“CoughCough, post:271, topic:311318"”]

They dont think like that CEO.
They cant swap shoes with people to feel what it might be like if they were in their position.

To do that, one needs a soul.
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which posts/“high moral” ladies are you guys refering to exactly? :konfused:
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Wendydarlings first post.

But my point extends beyond that. Empathy is a quality you wont find much on this forum. So is integrity.

Most people will open their mouth and blabber crap without really thinking about it. They wont understand what each stakeholder in the situation is going through, and will jump to rash judgements usually stemming from misinformed generalisations.

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I openly tell people about my PCOS and irregular cycles for the past few years. I'm beyond the point of having a good shot, probably. It's gonna take about 30 lbs of weight loss and cutting my Cuban bread to get me ovulating properly again, and even that, it's a MAYBE at this point.

Am I upfront about it to everyone? Yes. Some have even asked me about treatments and success rates on treatments, and done their own pubmed research on it. :-S It's fair though, I think it's a guy's right to not pursue things further if infertility could be a real possibility.

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If my husband told me he had a deformed penis before marriage, I think I'll still have married him. Companionship and friendship with the right person means more to me, and frankly, lots of babies in Pakistan to adopt that need a home.

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You're comparing a deformed penis to infertility?

Not really in medicine are you?

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I agree with cough cough, that each persons perspective is different. It's different when you have a loving relationship with a spouse and then discover issues with fertility vs someone you don't know at all and hypothetically think of a situation.

A real life example, One of my fathers friend very charming, educated, was married for 35 years to a illiterate cousin, but they had a very close relationship. They did not have kids in 35 years of marriage. Then Khala jee expired in an accident. After couple of years uncle was married to a widow, and she did not conceive. They sought treatment and it was a difficult ride due to his rising age, as chances of success decreased.

I asked why he did not seek treatment before and he said, as long as my first wife was with me I was happy with Allah ki raza. I asked then why not be happy now, and he said now with her not with him, it's different.

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Being 19 yearz old guy, I will never leave her. How one can be so cruel ? The meaning of marriage is not just kidz. The concept of marriage is much deeper than what these guys think. I will stay with her and never leave her.
I love kidz and like to play with them, so If she is capable of giving birth, but she does not want kidz then Problem may arise. ALLAH TALA ki taraaf saay koi Problem ho tou Koi bat nhe, maagr Khud Say Problem create karnaa is Not acceptable.

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Wow. pathetic, expected much more maturity from you

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Just to clarify... you mean if he was infertile, right? ...Rather than having a penis that was unusual in shape, bent at the end or summat?

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uski koi khaas wajah? :konfused:

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Deformed penis vs. infertility? :/

I have a hard time believing u would be ok with this *"Companionship and friendship with the right person means more to me" *but god forbid u need to do housework/roti? I dont get how u think. :/ I mean no disrespect seriously but i dont get it.

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Er people who dish it out to others shouldn't cry when they get a taste of their own medicine..

What's pathetic is going all round GS making personal digs at ppl then crying foul when when someone hits back..