if you do not cover yourself before marriage will you do it after marriage?
e.g if you get married into a conservative family or your new husband says that you should take the hijab and/or abaya will you do it?
i have heard that abaya lainay ke liye bara dil chahiye magar it was not that hard for me to do:confused:
also to those who already cover how did you feel after covering yourself?
i am became more self confident and more outgoing once i started covering:blush: myself:snooty:
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For me it doesnt matter…I’ll take off the abaya once in an all women gathering and be myself…at front of men, better stay covered up… before or after marriage.
Now a better Question wouldve been: would I stop taking hijab or abaya if my in-laws insisted…
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yes thats true thanks for posting the great q
i wont take it off if my in laws insisted even
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i want to take it even now ....atleast keep my head covered am planning to do so since so long :S all the time satan takes over :S :(
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but thats the q why does satan take over. why cant we force ourselves to cover up why do we think about what the world will think and not what ALLAH will think.
Will you do it? part 2
Now a better Question wouldve been: would I stop taking hijab or abaya if my in-laws insisted…
**would you stop taking the abaya or hijab for any reason? maybe if your in-laws suggested? **
**THANKYOU TO BULBULI FOR THE IDEA OF THIS QUESTION:blush: **
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i wont take it off no matter what thats final i love wearing the hijab and abaya:blush:
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Either way keeping or not keeping abaya is a personal choice. What the hell inlaws have to do with it.
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I wouldn't do it just to please my husband.. I would only do it when I felt that I was ready to do it wholeheartedly.... it shouldnt be just to please others or because ur forced to do so... thats just fake
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xactly I believe it's matter of your own choice. Nobody should be forcing.
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but still
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but still what?
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if you think it islamically then you should wear hijab ... it's zaroori for the females
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I would coz thats the only reason when i will start wearing it coz i want to wera hijab (abaya i am not too sure) but i can't may be coz my iman is so weak and setan take over me but i will one day Insha Allah pls pray for me so that i do start wearing hijab soon
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I think its a very personal thing as to whether you choose to wear 1 or not.
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My parents never forced me to take hijab or anything but since i used to do proper hijab in peshawar , iam kinda used to it.. and in case if my hubby asked me to do hijab i would for sure do it.. As a matter of fact i would be thanksful to him for encouraging me to the right path...
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Let me tell you a story..............
I starrted wearing hijaab in aug 2005 after performing my first Umraah as I wanted that to be a new start for me...my sis in law had performed Hajj once and also Umraah many times before we went that time (they came with us) and she knew that I was going to wear hijaab from then on.....so she said that she should too as people would say that how good am I to wear after one umraah and there she was after even performing hajj and still not wearing the hijaab.....................
So, she set off on a shopping expedition...in Makkah, Jeddah, Medina...she said she would only wear hijaab after she had one in every colour to match each outfit...she bought hundreds........I also shopped for hijaab, but bought ones that would be multi purpose......
Last year after nearly one full year of wearing it full time, she went to India and there she waltzed round wearing hijaab, but wearing very unsuitable attire......very short sleeves, low necklines and chest uncovered.....so as people do...they talked.....now it comes to light that she is regretting wearing the hijaab as she would like the freedom to wear whatever she wants.........
For me..it's different, I feel like I have gained so much respect for myself through wearing the hijaab, I know that it's not only for covering the hair etc...................
Now why am I telling you this? The Q from AishainDubai was would you take/not take after marriage.....well her husband didn't want her to take the hijaab as he was concerned that she wouldn't be wearing it with it's full meaning.......she felt pressured to wear it for fear of what people would say...now she is feeling that she can't remove it - again for fear of what people will say.............catch 22!!
The way I see it the strength of your imaan and understanding of Islams teachings will help you transition into wearing the hijaab/abaya.............I found that the more I read the more I wanted to protect myself, my self respect and my reputation.............you have to understand why you are wearing the hijaab/abaya...............it's better not to wear it at all than to wear part time hijaab/abaya/pardah........................
I remember the first question I was asked on my first day wearing it to work...my colleague asked me..."Is this permanent or are you just having a bad hair day"......!!!
Sorry for the long post...didn't realise it had got so long!
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when i was in skool i thot i would wear a hijaab , after i finish skool ,
but i left skool and did not :(
but the good thing is that i'm all covered , be it summer or winter .
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okk thats a BIG question for me
i only started to do dupatta on my head....i know its bad :(
but i have started dupatta on my head....mayb i might JUST might start wearing a hijab...
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excellent question…a know quite a few muhajabeen that were put in this situation after marriage 