Will you?
guys only plz 
Yes.
No.
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No.
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why not?
and shakira what makes you think ull be a good dad?...i dont mean anything bad that ur a dumbass and wud make a horrible dad, but what makes you think ull be a good one?
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No.
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yes!
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why not?
and shakira what makes you think ull be a good dad?...i dont mean anything bad that ur a dumbass and wud make a horrible dad, but what makes you think ull be a good one?
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There's a huge gap between the way our parents think and the way we, the Y (younger) generation think. I came to US when I was 14 and by the time I get married and have kids, I will have spent a big part of my life in the US. I will know the culture here and expectations of my kids and of other people from my kids. I will know what my kids want/need. How strict I should be with them. How frank I should be with them. What should I do so that they don't hide stuff from me and come home and tell me everything without being scared. I will know what techniques I should use to raise my kids so that my son is a decent Muslim, something in between the type who are extremists and manipulate the religin and then those who sleep with every girl they see. My wife and I will know how to raise our daughters so that they don't grow up to be a bey-sharam larki nor too religious just to please us and the one who takes off scarf and wears a mini skirt the minute she leaves the house. I think you get my point.
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yup i gots you..thanks 
i know exactly how u feel…esp for my daughters I don’t want them to go through some of hte stuff I went through with my own parents
its so hard to raise kids when you come over to a new country and u want to keep ur culture alive but other forces are making ur kids want to pull farther away for u…i’ve to give a lot of credit to my parents for trying to raise my bro n me
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**I* will know what techniques I should use to raise my kids so that my son is a decent Muslim, something in between the type who are extremists and manipulate the religin and then those who sleep with every girl they see. My wife and I will know how to raise our daughters so that they don't grow up to be a bey-sharam larki nor too religious just to please us and the one who takes off scarf and wears a mini skirt the minute she leaves the house. I think you get my point.
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what I gather is that you will (know how to) take care of your sons, but when it comes to your daughters it will be your wife AND you. Won't your wife have any say on how to raise your sons? :o
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what I gather is that you will (know how to) take care of your sons, but when it comes to your daughters it will be your wife AND you. Won't your wife have any say on how to raise your sons?
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That was a typo. But I will let my wife deal more with my daughter and I will deal more with my son as my son will be shy to talk to his mom and the daughter will be shy to talk to me. so.
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That was a typo. But I will let my wife deal more with my daughter and I will deal more with my son as my son will be shy to talk to his mom and the daughter will be shy to talk to me. so.
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yeah, no way cud i tell my dad the stuff I tell my mom..it's not "hiding" anything or lying to him, it's just a matter of sharam and hayya
It is a good question.
For me, It will be hard to match the quality of upbringing I got. But I will definately try.
The qualities I admire in my father, which are hard to find, that he never broke off with any relative. No matter how hard some one tries to cut-off ties with us, my parent never let them succeed. As you all know some relatives are in every family who are miscreet and they do and say lot of bad thing about you and your family. So as a result people stop talking to them and meeting them.
Dont think I would be....
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Dont think I would be....
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why do you think that?
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There's a huge gap between the way our parents think and the way we, the Y (younger) generation think.
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20 Years later your kids would be saying the same thing..
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20 Years later your kids would be saying the same thing..
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No. I strongly think they won't but you never know. I will tell you the reasons later as I have to leave now
Define being a good father.
If a good father from a teens perspective is the one that allows them to hang out late at night, use curse words, etc.. Then no I am going to be a terrible father.
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Define being a good father.
If a good father from a teens perspective is the one that allows them to hang out late at night, use curse words, etc.. Then no I am going to be a terrible father.
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To me a good father (or mother) might be knowing that even though at one point in your life your child may hate you and take you for granted, he or she will miss you when you're gone. You know that one day you won't be around, but your child, while they'll hurt like hell, will still be okay and be the secure, confident, successful people with the same values their parents instilled in them
forget a good father, what is a bad father????
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forget a good father, what is a bad father????
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someone who doesn't care about his child....who cares more about being a "friend" than a dad....who beats his kids for no reason....who just leaves his wife and children..any or all of the above
I think I wont be a good one cauze I cant pressure those masoom faces when i see them begging and nagging for something.....well those teenz will look kids to me when i get old rite.