will flats look horrible on my big day ?

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Hi everyone ,

im due to marry in 3 months inshallah … and me and my fiance are the same height (he is slightly taller (2-3 cm ) what i’d like to know is do you think if i wore satin ballet slippers or some other form of no heel shoe , will it look ugly when im walking in on the entrance in my shaadi jora , also do shoes generally show when you are walking in your bridal jora , because if they do not show the shoes completely that would be great !!!

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I say wear very small heels

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

I would say wear (golden/ silver? )embellished sandals with no heels. I have back issues and wore no heels with my bridal dress. Do one noticed.

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

No one will notice. Just make sure you don't lift your lengha too high when you walk. But for pictures (photographers take pics of shoes and feet all the time), just make sure they are cute. Try it all on and practice walking/sitting in front of a mirror.

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

You could wear khussay.

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Do you think getting something custom made is an option for you? If your height is almost equal to your fiance, you don't necessarily need to wear even small heel but ballet slipper don't sound like a great idea. I haven't seen any bridal no heel shoes but I am sure you can get someone to make it on order. Something that says bridal so you can take pictures with your shoes as well. Bridal shoots generally have shoes showing.

Congrats on your wedding btw =)

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

i was actually thinking to go ahead with purchasing my 4inch heels (rose gold by badgleymischka),

wear them in the photoshoot, get a few snaps of them , then at the reception/entrance and other places take some

satin flats , i just dont want anyone to realise im wearing the flats as long as they remained concealed that would be ideal.

Getting custom made bridal flats, how different could they be to all the other flats out there , ultimately theyll be a flat sandal

form , gold , sparkles , or silver but still unattractive flat shoes ... so my best bet is to ensure my flats are never seen i hope !

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

Is he wearing a pugri? That'll give him added height, and you can still wear a 1.5-2 inch heel. I'd seriously reconsider the flats - heels give you a better posture and will make the lengha flow better.

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

I wore 1inch heel On my wedding day ..and it was fine

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

I needed high heels (I'm short) that were super comfy and allowed me to walk around/dance the entire evening. I ended up choosing heels (they're in the other thread) that're not the "cutest" choice for a bridal. But they met MY criterias. The entire evening, no one saw my shoes!

When finalizing everything weeks before the wedding, I made sure I was able to walk/dance in the lehenga WITHOUT having to lift it at all. The only time I lifted it during the reception is the when the guy wanted to take pics.

The same applies to flats. As long as you do not lift your lehenga, no one will see your shoes.

Whatever you choose, make sure you're comfortable with the choice (physically and mentally). :)

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

thanks for the help darlings!

i am more assured that my shoes wont show under my lehenga now but as someone mentioned above , a persons posture
in heels is much more feminine and flattering to the body than flats ... is this true ? or is it simply due to the fact that heels give you
height hence make you look thinner ??? i'm a perfect height without heels so i don't NEED them but ofcourse i want to look my best
so if it means wearing them to improve my posture on the big day , maybe i should consider ........

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

yes.

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

This completely depends on your "normal" posture, body shape, how you carry yourself, the specific outfit itself etc.

Here are some thoughts:

1) Once you have your outfit, try it on with heels and with flats. See if the heels make a major difference in the posture when it comes to YOU.

2) Are you 100% comfortable with the idea of being taller than you hubby during the reception? B/C lets say you decide that the heels improve your posture, and choose to wear them.....if on the reception itself you feel uncomfortable due to being taller....it has the potential to show up (ie. your facial expression/body language will show that you're not comfortable). Plus it will have a negative effect on your mood.

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

it wont look bad if u try to hide ur shoes under ur lehnga... ;)

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I thought I was the only one with this issue, this makes me feel muchhhh better! My fiance and I are exactly the same height as well!!!
My cousins did my shaadi shopping in pakistan they couldn't find nice flat shoes so they bought heels and had the guy lower the heel down to one inch. I'm still worrying I might look taller since he's wearing khussay on the baraat so I'm may wear something else.
I ordered shoes off of a website since its really hard to find decent flat shoes in NY. I ordered a bunch of different colors.
I don't think shoes show when you wear a lehnga/gharara/sharara. At most maybe the front part shows so if you wear a decent flat sandal you should be fine!

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Re: will flats look horrible on my big day ?

There are so many pretty flats/flat sandals out there these days, it should not be a problem. Check macy's dillards, bloomingdale, nordstrom, and other shoe stores.