Re: Wifey or Bavekoofi?
Salaam everyone!
My friend wants to fit in these goriyans that she sees outside or meet everyday. I mean she has everything and her husband has provided her with everything. She has a nice loving husband who not only loves her, but also respects her. You can say that he is the man who knows how to treat a woman. He has given her almost about everything. From nice ghar to nice furniture, from pyar to respect, from clothing to jewelry. Also I have seen some men who tell their wives that they shall like this and that, but her husband doesn’t mind her wearing anything be it western/desi clothing. All he asks her is to dress in such manner that when you are out there, people not only look at you with buri nazar, but respect you.
So last night, my friend told her husband that one of her gori friend has invited her to this party and she must attend it as she and her friend has been good friend for the past 5 years and can’t let her gori friend down. But she said that she wants to dress western and something similar to this below image of this dress. He replied and said that well it depends on what you wana wear. The dress that she came up with was : http://www.google.ca/imgres?imgurl=http://bp1.blogger.com/_-D8gnT84KZo/SDjERDjTGXI/AAAAAAAAAUg/Fs5Vd-UmO54/s400/colorfuldressesbright.jpg&imgrefurl=http://youreverydaystyle.blogspot.com/2008/05/colorful-dresses.html&usg=__6-j3nElxdsvLpjoKl9UwQ4nwsgc=&h=400&w=328&sz=38&hl=en&start=35&zoom=1&tbnid=BAM6G1M7nT3xHM:&tbnh=162&tbnw=133&ei=mzZkTfPPOMWBlAeJ0rTYCw&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dnice%2Bdresses%2Bfor%2Bparties%26hl%3Den%26biw%3D1362%26bih%3D506%26gbv%3D2%26tbs%3Disch:10%2C901&itbs=1&iact=hc&vpx=745&vpy=156&dur=16&hovh=248&hovw=203&tx=148&ty=109&oei=WjZkTfH6E8H7lweE9InrCw&page=3&ndsp=15&ved=1t:429,r:11,s:35&biw=1362&bih=506
He said straight up NO and it lead to a huge argument.
So my question is that why do some women behave like this. I mean you have everything that a woman look for in a man.
Why be “Not Shukran” to Allah swt for what he has given you. I mean look at those people out there who are dieing to be fed, those living on the streets, those who do not have a loving husband, those who do not have a family, those who may have health problems and etc.
the lady is wrong here.
its not that her husband is telling her a NO or YES but she should know her religious boundaries before anyone tells her anything. i’ll say speak to her (if possible) and tell her its not about your husband saying no or yes but being a muslim do you really think this is how you should be behaving. otherwise keep on praying for your friend.
