If the husband is critical and disapproving of the wife’s parents & siblings should she still maintain her relations? Is she being disobedient if she is being defensive & protecting them? Is a husband allowed to complain about her family to her?
Re: Wife's responsibility towards her parents/siblings after marriage
I'm no religious scholar, neither a Muslim, but I find it hard to believe that any religion would consider it okay for a woman to abandon the people who gave birth to her and raised her to what she is. What if the parents are old and have no other child other than the woman in question? Just based on humanity, I think this is unacceptable.
Re: Wife's responsibility towards her parents/siblings after marriage
If the husband is critical and disapproving of the wife's parents & siblings should she still maintain her relations? Is she being disobedient if she is being defensive & protecting them? Is a husband allowed to complain about her family to her?
no she should not maintain her relations if he is too adamnet on that...since parents are much more important then your spouse.
no she isnot being disobedient.
no the husband isnot allowed and shouldnot complain about her to her family.
Re: Wife's responsibility towards her parents/siblings after marriage
My dad told me a few months ago ... in his old age and wisdom ... because he comes from a family that do not protect the image of one another rather blame one another all the time ... my mum however herself has never been seen casting a stone on her family ... well a few months ago he told me one thing that I cherish now ...
"One thing I have learnt from your mother in these years is that she never accepts the fault of her family and never complains about them and says they are wrong, even when she knows it in many cases".
His reason was for saying that is my mum when it comes to her family will not propagate negative information and will attempt to stump out any possible talk of her family ... well she has never had a fall out with them ... whereas on my father's side people fall out all the time. There is wisdom in this position ...
It is a husband's duty to bring about the positive side of his wife's family and praise them - this will increase her love for him. He should shy away from anything wrong that they may be doing, but protect his wife from the fitnah that they may be creating. He should give her the trust to make decisions herself without trying to influence her, he should use other means and techniques to discourage her to follow in their bad ways without directly criticising them - because that is not only back biting but it will make her defensive as well.