i m nt saying whether they shud have had a magni or not, my point is just that rushing into marriage and then making the other person's life hell cuz of it is simple wrong. No reason can be valid for it, 40/50 k or 10000000000k... we r talking about somebody's life here.
Sister main fault according to my point of view is of guy's parents who chose bahoo and second one is of my friend that he should treat wife as a wife. I have explained him many times that u r not living with just a wife's body but her behavior, attitude mean a lot to ur life but when ever he sees a beautiful girl when walking on the roads or in some shopping malls, I know what he feels in his heart and why his face becomes sad. But what happened is happened advice me how to convince him to treat her properly.
Sister he does not belong to a village or some remote locations he belongs to a big city but I think that u never visited Pakistan or has little knowledge about its culture or traditions. Even I did not see my wife before mangni. Mangni in our tradition means a confirmed nikkah to much extent. meaning that after mangni when I saw my wife picture I could not reject her just because of beauty because my parents have selected the girl on my behalf and thats it. But that does not mean that I was also rewarded with some non beautiful wife. I m jut ellaborating tradition.
If your friend was seedha/ shareef enough to marry the girl to give respect to his parents, he should be seedha enough to accept the wife and live with her 'happily ever after'.
No he will never do that. If he had such kind of courage then before marriage he definitely had told his parents that a beautiful wife is required.
Desiring a beautiful wife was NOT something he couldn't ask his parents for. Guys do ask about specific requirements in their prospective wives when their parents are looking for them.
Is there any other untold part? Was he interested in someone else?
Sister main fault according to my point of view is of guy's parents who chose bahoo and second one is of my friend that he should treat wife as a wife. I have explained him many times that u r not living with just a wife's body but her behavior, attitude mean a lot to ur life but when ever he sees a beautiful girl when walking on the roads or in some shopping malls, I know what he feels in his heart and why his face becomes sad. But what happened is happened advice me how to convince him to treat her properly.
Well ask him to find out more about her as a person and what they both share in common and enjoy that :). If he doesn't find her pretty, there is not much she can do about her face but if he thinks she doesnt take good care of herself as in how she is dressed, stylised and all that then he can talk to her about it. I have seen many ordinary looking girls who look real nice because of how they groom theirself and above all a person's personality really takes over their beauty or the lack of it. So ask him to stop obsessing about her lack of beauty and focus on her as a person and maybe he'll be in for a surprise :).
Well ask him to find out more about her as a person and what they both share in common and enjoy that :). If he doesn't find her pretty, there is not much she can do about her face but if he thinks she doesnt take good care of herself as in how she is dressed, stylised and all that then he can talk to her about it. I have seen many ordinary looking girls who look real nice because of how they groom theirself and above all a person's personality really takes over their beauty or the lack of it. So ask him to stop obsessing about her lack of beauty and focus on her as a person and maybe he'll be in for a surprise :).
thats a good advice I will make him convinced to treat his wife properly.
Desiring a beautiful wife was NOT something he couldn't ask his parents for. Guys do ask about specific requirements in their prospective wives when their parents are looking for them.
Is there any other untold part? Was he interested in someone else?
I dont know exactly but he never mentioned any other girl as his love or having some interest in other girl. I dont think so.
Why the fudge did he get hitched to someone who he didn't find hot in the first place.. A marriage is not complete without attraction and sexual chemistry..
Well as I see it , the real issue is not that ''his wife is not pretty'' , but it must be that your buddy is jobless or something . Feeling embarrassed he must have told you that he is not attracted to his wife . Daal ma kuch kala zaroor ha .
Tell the wife to come on GS so we can tell her what to wear to sex up the marriage a bit
I have no connection with his wife even I did not see her. But she should have tried some thing special for her hubby to attract him towards her. that my own assumption not based on any fact.
aj e poochta hu us se. waisay abi tk us ka koi baby b nei hy.
