a certain man decides to not be with her, any longer.
she means no harm, but she does speak her mind and does what is the right thing to do, instill what is the right thing to do.
but, he is incapable of appreciating it like this, without giving to his wrong notion of felt lower self esteem and presumed impending sense of control being taken away from him.
who should be the mediator? who should consult a counselor or should they part from each other, with no questions asked?
thoughts?
note: please onloy focus on the scenario and given conditions.
a certain man decides to not be with her, any longer.
she means no harm, but she does speak her mind and does what is the right thing to do, instill what is the right thing to do.
but, he is incapable of appreciating it like this, without giving to his wrong notion of felt lower self esteem and presumed impending sense of control being taken away from him.
who should be the mediator? who should consult a counselor or should they part from each other, with no questions asked?
thoughts?
note: please onloy focus on the scenario and given conditions.
In your statements and scenario you mentioned that he is wrong.
Also you asked no one should change the scenario. Fair enough.
Now coming to the questions:
1- Its not easy to find a true mediator. A third party is always doomed to fail if other two parties do not agree.....to agree!! ADDED: Besides the third party may have its own agenda and may not be very sincere despite both think otherwise.
(Its off topic but that is why UN and any so called mediators have NEVER been able to find solutions to international conflicts )
2- If he already has made up his mind then she is working uphill.
3- She is the one who has the hard work to do. Try convincing him in any way reasonably possible and seek advice from anyone who she thinks is sincere and has no other hidden agenda.
If all fails, then why living with that guy?
Its not a joke but divorce does happen and many actually feel good after this.
no one says, divorce is good. it's the last option, and mostly good natured people exhaust all avenues to get back together, before they make the decision to turn away from each other.
other issues that do not fall in the purview of this post - such as child/ren and their care by both parents - are issues which should be seriously and objectively sifted, to determine whether staying married is better or divorcing.
A person needs to know when to shutup. Being Right / Wrong doesn't matter - nor that you have an opinion etc.
Its more true in marrige. Marrige is a lot about compromise - both usually have to compromise more than they want.
a certain man decides to not be with her, any longer.
she means no harm, but she does speak her mind and does what is the right thing to do, instill what is the right thing to do.
but, he is incapable of appreciating it like this, without giving to his wrong notion of felt lower self esteem and presumed impending sense of control being taken away from him.
who should be the mediator? who should consult a counselor or should they part from each other, with no questions asked?
thoughts?
note: please onloy focus on the scenario and given conditions.