Re: Wife Giving Husband Orders Regularly?
LMAO…so did you think I was talking about when they’re outside the home in some park or at a hotel??? I was ALSO talking about when they’re both at home. Again, bossing in general is rude. But asking your husband to help you out with something is not wrong. I gave you the example of the Prophet SAWS…why didn’t you say anything about that eh? He didn’t have to be asked to help around the house…he did the chores himself. IT did not make him or his wives less Musalman. See, that’s the thing…you can either be a part of the society with twisted views…or you can try your best to be part of the positive change. My dad was born and raised in Pak…he cooks over the weekends…he makes chai for my mom…he helps out with the gardening…he actively helps out my mom when we have a gathering…he takes an interest in the home. That doesn’t make him or my mom less musalman. My mom does not boss him around. He doesn’t boss her around. The respect one another. Relationships and roles are not always black and white…some blurring can take place and one has to be flexible. There are many views in our desi society that are very very very old and very very very jahil. We can either complain about them for years to come or try to be a part of positive change. You can’t change an entire system, I know that. But you can control your own individual self…and you can make more of a conscious effort not to blindly follow generations of views that may not make sense.