Re: Wife finding it difficult adjusting
In addition to what’s been said already…I also think that fact that she doesn’t have anything to keep her occupied all day is a problem. Its giving her plenty of time to focus on anything she may perceive as a negative in her life right now. If she’s choosing not to look for work right now, then you should strongly encourage (perhaps even insist?) her to volunteer somewhere of her choosing UNTIL she gets a job.
Also, does she have any specific responsiblities around the house at all? Perhaps the ladies here who live with in-laws can shed more light on this…but I would imagine that she’d find it difficult to feel like a “part” of the family if your mother is continuing to take care of EVERYTHING in the house. If there are not any issues with her and your mother, perhaps they can discuss and shift some household responsibities to your wife so that she has something to do (and also feels like she’s contributing to the family).