Re: Wife finding it difficult adjusting
Paheli00 thanks for your advice.
The household duties are not many for her, i can think of the following…
Day to day shopping such as purchasing meat or fruit for iftaari - The weekly shopping we both do together
As far as i’m aware those are her only duties.
My mum from the start didn’t really ask her to do anything as she didn’t want my wife to think she’s a maid. But the Mrs got into the swing of carrying out her duties.
There has never been much to do in our house and my mum does all of it if shes left to do so (she’s like a robot and cant sit still, always has to be doing something).
**My sister who got married and lived with her in-laws for over two years mentioned that she would have killed herself out of boredom if she didnt get outside the house and find work.
I personally think she has too much time on her hands and starts thinking about all the negatives and needs to do some voluntary work or at least get out of the house.**
StoneCold - Thanks
Regarding living separately - when we were introduced and the pleasantries were out the way the very first question i asked here was that i would need someone to live with my my mum and she agreed and since then and even before our nikaah i confirmed that she was OK with this and she didn’t mind.
Now I am willing to move (the Mrs doesn’t like the area) and my mother will come with me, although i do have other siblings. My mum has stated that she would move with us but she would separate her time between brothers and sisters and spend majority of it abroad in Pakistan.
flawedsoul
I spend as much of my time with her that I can. I don’t really go out any more, especially during ramadhan except for the mosque and on my weekends i am with her.
I seriously try to do as much as i can but i just dont have any ideas how to move forward.
I felt exactly this… And once once I got out, start work/study again it feels much much better. I found something to occupy myself with, have met new people and that’s giving me less and less time to focus on the negative.
One more thing: If I understand correctly your wife has said that she hasn’t propel,s with your family and is not talking about moving apart herself, no?