Re: Wife doing something inappropriate online?
Mr Lota man, you cannot seem to make the distinction between gossiping/backbiting and seeking genuine advice.
I came here looking for the latter. If I was gossiping I would say “my friend’s husband is such a perv, all he does is go on porno sites”. But I didn’t. I understand men have their needs and women have theirs. You however are doing what every man tries to do: blame the woman.
Stardust09:
Mr Lota man, you cannot seem to make the distinction between gossiping/backbiting and seeking genuine advice.
I came here looking for the latter. If I was gossiping I would say “my friend’s husband is such a perv, all he does is go on porno sites”. But I didn’t. I understand men have their needs and women have theirs. You however are doing what every man tries to do: blame the woman.
I don’t think he is accusing you of gossip/backbiting. From my understanding he’s just trying to gauge and compare the reactions that people have to things like what you talked about in your topic and backbiting.
From my understanding what you’re doing (at least in that topic) isn’t backbiting because all the people in question are anonymous here.
Re: Wife doing something inappropriate online?
brother Loty, you are awesome.
You are the voice of all oppressed men of life1.
you go girl!!!(you know what I mean)
njgal
January 11, 2010, 4:09pm
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Re: Wife doing something inappropriate online?
Response to both threads should be the same -
Talk to your spouse and tell them how hurtful his/her behavior is. If they don’t take your feelings into consideration and keep at it - then you have a probelm.
Sometimes you don’t realize what you are doing is hurtful until someone tells you it is and how it makes them feel.
Re: Wife doing something inappropriate online?
welcome to “desperate housewives” era
paijee
January 11, 2010, 6:29pm
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I think the wife really wants her husband to start performing gossiping acts on her - understandably, he must be reluctant.
Gina
January 11, 2010, 7:43pm
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Mamaof3:
Something I’ve noticed more than a couple of times is that desi guys have a “thing” about what they call gossip.
When the ladies get together, we tend to talk about whats new with the people we know, things that are going on with the kids, who visited who, who had a party, etc. Local news. Desi guys tend to call this “gossip” and perhaps it is…but its the way of life. The gals dont et together to talk about politics, economics and sports scores. So get over it guys.
When ‘desi’ uncles get together.. it’s either politics or ‘doosri shaadi’
Milly
January 11, 2010, 8:04pm
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I’d remove the wireless, what the flip is she doing with a computer/laptop in the kitchen anyway…lazy cow!
stoppit
January 11, 2010, 8:07pm
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Milleh is always doing inappropriate stuff online
Milly
January 11, 2010, 8:08pm
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Its that gob of yours Stoppits, temptations.
funguy
January 11, 2010, 8:09pm
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What’s a Milleh? A female Mullah?
K337
January 11, 2010, 8:11pm
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heyyy bhagwaan.mei apni patni ka kya karoon
Ohh, i did not notice.
Now i have look for something more original.
_H_NK
January 11, 2010, 9:20pm
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WitchDr
January 15, 2010, 7:50am
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Captain_Lota:
I was talking with a close friend and he told me that he caught his wife gossiping with women and spreading rumours online. He was so shocked and freaked about it because in his mind there wasn’t a need for it since he thought they had quite a healthy relationship. I just told him maybe his wife did this before marriage and just wrongly continued the bad habit. I, for once, didn’t have anything better to say!
I cannot understand why so many women have to resort to these outlets of immorality.
Has anyone experienced this before with their wives? What was your reaction and how did you deal with it?
Also, this doesn’t have to stop at wives. Could be siblings, children etc. For me, my biggest concern is if my children start gossiping and spreading rumours online.
I don’t want to offend anyone or get banned people! It is just a genuine concern which we shouldn’t just “brush under the carpet”.
With a nickname like Capt. Lota on a location named Bait-ul-Khala, you sure have some unwaranted concerns. Give her some personal space.