Why do women get turned off by men who live with their parents?
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***Humping under the same roof as your parents !
Now if THAT doesn't turn U off.........Nothing will !***
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^:rotfl:…ew
I think because a guy that still lives at home might still be emotionally/financially dependent on his parents. He might not be mature or independent enough to have a wife.
Its also what sheynie said...might also turn a girl off knowing her inlaws are next door.
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I Guess you all are against the combined Family system...
It also might be due to the fact that the Boy/Man wants to have the blessing of his Parents staying together with them . Taking care of them at this age.
About the Girl - It might be because she see's her SASS over there ;)
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***Humping under the same roof as your parents !
Now if THAT doesn't turn U off.........Nothing will !***
ha ha
once this couple when ever they were at girls parents house... and guy tried girl goes "no don't.. its my parents house"
one day guy got mad and goes "you thing my parent place is wh--e house?"
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unless a man is actually taking care of his ailing parents (and they are not totally healthy and just want their beta and bahu in the house) i fail to see anything attractive in a 30+ male living with his parents whilst married.
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I think most women (including myself) want to have their own home once they're married. I want to build a life with my husband...and part of that includes having our (my husband and I) own home where I decorate it from scratch and set our own daily routine. In my humble opinion, buying a house, moving in, going through the entire process of buying things from scratch and settling into a routine as husband&wife is a great bonding time for a couple. Moving in with my in-laws means I'm moving into someone else's home where everything already has its own place.....I have to conform to the "rules" already put in place by my FIL and MIL. No matter how nice the in-laws are....at the end of the day, it is their house and I will not be free to do as I please.....I would always feel like a guest.
But let me clarify 2 important points:
1) If a man is single and is living with his parents out of necessity......ie. he's living with them b/c they NEED him for financial or health reasons....then I can completely understand that.
2) If the man's parents do not need him financially or for health reasons.....then I would insist on having a separate home. However, in the future if there ever comes a time where his (or my) parents are not able to live on their own (again due to health or financial reasons), then they are more than welcome to move into our home.
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women are turned off by men who want to live with their parents because its really unfair to expect your wife to live with your parents. only desi family system is so twisted to encourage this insane idea of joint family!
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Why do women get turned off by men who live with their parents?
No they do not. Few may be but most in asian culture at least do not get 'turned off' by these guys.
They might say yes they would get turned off. Practically, they will not if the guy has other great qualities.
Are you sure they are not just using it as an excuse to refuse the guy?
If the sexual attraction does really make a big diference for them then even if attractive guys live with their parents, they will marry those guys.
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Cuz women are insane! You can't deny valuable DUA's parents give to their kids. Even in Bible it is mentioned that Khidmat of parents is the first thing to succeed in life. Us ghar per Allah kee rehmatain hoti hain.
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I think because a guy that still lives at home might still be emotionally/financially dependent on his parents. He might not be mature or independent enough to have a wife.
Its also what sheynie said...might also turn a girl off knowing her inlaws are next door.
Ditto
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..when it doesn't encroach on her own God-given rights.. End of story..
Her God given rights will never match the rights GOD has given Man to his parents. Look there is no debate here. Quran clearly says in surah Nisa "good women obey". Plus there is no shortage of women willing to do so, so who cares anyway LOL.
If any guy wants to be stupid and abandon his wife for his parents, go ahead watch where it gets you. When they die, then you will know. You will also know when your sons do that to you.
I will take care of my mom and dad, inshallah and their happiness will always come before my wife, if she's got a problem with that, she knows where the door is.
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It's not that they're turned off by the joint family, they're just turned off by YOU. :)
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It's not that they're turned off by the joint family, they're just turned off by YOU. :)
Glad to see you can still log on to GS with 56k internet connection Sara :D
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DSL baby, DSL.
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It's not that they're turned off by the joint family, they're just turned off by YOU. :)
tell me something i already don't know :)
A man living with his parents is not a turn-off.
A man who hasn't grown up to be a responsible adult is a turn-off.
A man who can't think for himself is a turn-off.
A very passive and apathetic man is a turn-off.
As long as the above issues do not exist, it's a possibility, but not a preference.
For me personally, I wanted to set up my own home my way and really enjoy it. Now if temporarily we needed to live with his parents, or if there were financial or health reasons for doing so, I would have done it. Also, there's a difference between being the new bahu in your IL's house and setting up your own house and having your inlaws live with you. The latter does allow you a bit more authority and flexibility. But it's not always practical. My inlaws lived with us but only for a month or two. Now they live very close by as do my parents. I am very lucky to have them all.
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Thread reopened. Please stay on topic.