Re: Why?
Sad but very true. Which is the main reason for marrying off people abroad. It’s a win win situation, if a girl gets sent abroad she will have a good life and if a boy gets sent abroad he will have a chance at a decent career. The mismatches that can occur are hardly given any thought in our materialistic setup.
Now the other way around where people opt to marry back home is more complex. Men usually do it because either they have been pressured by family to marry someone in the family OR they feel they will be more suited to women back home. It’s been my experience that women abroad rarely are comfortable with the idea of marrying someone from back home. It is again usually because of pressure from parents who feel the girls risk “getting out of hand” or to oblige relatives in the family.
With desi marriages it is imperative to understand the needs/wants of the actual bride groom are secondary to those of the family. Aren’t we a screwed up bunch 