according to science we know that its not good to marry your cousin especially first cousin..its not good because they are like brothers and sisters and if you have babies or whatever ,there are high chances of them to be abnormal or something, now i am saying this from the knowledge i have .. that why doesnt it say in the Quran, you shoudnt marry your close relatives, isnt Islam really based on science??
hmm…if you actually research the topic, the risks of contracting diseases through cousin marriages are not that great to warrant a general ban on the practice…even modern scientists are not claiming that the taboo in the west is too general and does not reflect the actual science…and besides, the rasul :saw: married his paternal cousin zainab 
so there is nothing wrong in this practice inshallah.
in our family some of my cousins have a hereditary condition even though their father is not from our family..so these conditions can develop even with forieng parents…
The scientific risk exists, but it’s pretty low. It would only ever become singificant after many, many , many generations of continuous inter-marriage.
On a related subject, see my thread on the statistic of cousin marriages in the Muslim world here
http://www.gupistan.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=166376
There is only a very slight increased risk of getting a desease that is autosomal recessive. But there is no way for you to know whether a person you are marrying outside the family willl not have this gene.
Most of the research is based on data from places like Ashkanazi(sp??) jews, that lived in small area for many many years and no outsiders came in. There are some diseases that are seen more in them. Otherwise, I dont think its such a huge risk. But i think the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) did not marry any of his relatives himself. But marriage in the family is allowed, not necessary.
so are you saying it would still be okay to marry your first cousin.. because if i marry my moms >sisters >son thats like marrying my brother...why do people marry in there relatives and first cousins any way..its so common in Pakistan. every other person is doing this..why take the risk?
Because the risk of marying someone who is not your cousine Vs who is your cousin is almost the same. Its common in Pakistan because its allowed by Islam.
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so are you saying it would still be okay to marry your first cousin.. because if i marry my **moms >sisters >son thats like marrying my brother*...why do people marry in there relatives and first cousins any way..its so common in Pakistan. every other person is doing this..why take the risk?
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Your brother is your mom's son. The other one is na-mehram for you(if you are a muslim)
why do people marry in there relatives and first cousins any way
Cuz this is allowed in religion. simple. just like eating beef is allowed If you dont like(or think its bad for health) then just dont eat. no body is forcing you
i know its allowed and everythin' but i was wonderin why its soo common,.why do people prefer it more
http://www.gupistan.com/forums/show...threadid=166376
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i know its allowed and everythin' but i was wonderin why its soo common,.why do people prefer it more
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Well go out in an orchid and see if an apple is ripe for the pickin'. If you can have a bite, by golly go for it.
On a serious note, one word sums up the reason "why its soo common" and the word is "security".
You see marriage brings two people together and the society needs them to be together for the rest of their lives (till death do us part). The more things in common between the two spouses means greater chances of success towards the "till death do us part thingy".
Off course marriage is a gamble and nothing works 100%.
So desperate people keep on trying to increase the odds for success.
As a lesson, invest in Karachi stock exchange for a while and you will sure learn that being "insider" means most likely your "investment" will be safe.
Listen KhuShi786 , he might be like your brother or what the heck, but he's NOT ,hes still your cousin.
As much as science may have to prove, Islam is a way of life.If there were such high risks involved with cousin marriages, it wouldnt have been allowed in Islam.
You can marry a guy from the other end of the world, the truth is- you have no clue what your future children will turn out to be.They could be perfectly healthy or they might not be so.The same goes for a cosuin you might marry.
You can marry your cousin and have 100% healthy kids, you can marry a stranger and have kids who have birth defects (God forbid).None of us know what the future will be like ,so quit worrying.
thanxx....muslim queen..thanx but im not worrying im only 14 why would i worry about how my kids are gonna come out to be ...i have talkted to other muslims about this question and there was an argument about the right answer thats why i just wanted to clear everything for what she was askin'
is aam786 ur other nick??? Hes 14 aswell.
so anyways, the risk of having babies with defects by marrying cousins isn't that significant but it all comes down to ur personal preference. If marrying a cousin is lik marrying ur sibling to you then dont do it.
The good thing about marrying outsiders (especially someone not ur race) is that ur child will or should have a stronger immune system (taking advantage from both mothers and father's genes), thus he would be less likely to catch a life threatning disease. If this tradition continues on for many generations than theoratically diseases will not effect anyone.
As for me, i would go for outside the family.
this is just strange scientific theory...if there was any truth in it, we would have been able to find a ruling on that in Quran....btw, ask the non-muslim scientists to look closer...may be they can dig something similar to this in Quran...
lol...aam786 is not my nick ...and thats a he' im not a guy...