Why Women Like Bad Boys

Apparently they dont like them for too long…

Cads Win for Short-term Flings, Dads for Long-term Relationships

By Jennifer Warner
WebMD Medical News Reviewed By Michael Smith, MD
on Friday, October 24, 2003

Oct. 24, 2003 – When women think of “Mr. Right” it’s usually a kind, compassionate, and moral man who reminds them of dad. But when it comes to picking “Mr. Right Now,” it’s the devilish cads that win out, hands down.

A new study shows once again what romance novelists have written about for centuries: women prefer bad boys for flings and good guys for long-term relationships.

Researchers tested this evolutionary mating theory on a group of female undergraduates by using classic dad and cad (a person who is dishonorable or unprincipled) prototypes drawn from British romance novels and asking them to pick which type they’d rather be with.

Not surprisingly, they found women’s tendency to pick cads over dads increased as the length of the hypothetical relationship decreased.

“About 60% of the women said they would prefer to have sex with a cad when considering a brief affair,” says researcher Daniel Kruger, a social psychologist at the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research, in a news release.

Sorting the Dads From the Cads

In the study, the young women read descriptive passages of prototypical dads and cads drawn from classic British romantic novels. Waverly from Waverly by Walter Scott and Valancourt, from the Mysteries of Udolpho by Ann Radcliffe represented the dads, and George Staunton from The Heart of Mid-Lothian and Clement Cleveland from The Pirate by Walter Scott represented the cads.

In the passages, the dads were described as domestic, happy, peaceable, bookish, moral, gentle, compassionate, frank, and shy. The cads came off as daring, arrogant, moody, passionate, rebellious, strong, humorous, vulgar, shrewd, and slanderous.

After reading each description, researchers asked the women a series of questions, such as how much they thought they would like each character, how well they would get along with the men, and how likely they would be to have a short-term, long-term, and brief sexual relationship with each character.

To make the choices even more clear-cut, the women were also asked to choose which character they would be more likely to go on a three-week road trip, a formal date, have sexual relations with, marry, and prefer to see engaged to their 25-year-old daughter.

Bad Guys Get the Girls, Good Guys Keep Them

Overall, researchers found that the women thought they would like the dads more than the cads. But they preferred cads for a short-term relationship and dads for the long haul.

When forced to choose between a pair of dad and cad characters, the dad was the top choice for a formal date, marriage, and as a son-in-law.

But the results were mixed on the other options. When it came down to choosing who they would like to have sexual relations with or go on a road trip, the women preferred cads in one comparison, but had no clear preference in the other.

The results appear in the current issue of the journal Human Nature.

Researchers say the findings show that the dad vs. cad distinction is intuitive to women, and when given only a brief character sketch, women seem to be able to make informed dating decisions

The apparent flaw in the study is to categorize men in only two groups. It's like grouping women in two groups, one headed by Martha Stewart while the other with Pamela Anderson or something.

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The apparent flaw in the study is to categorize men in only two groups. It's like grouping women in two groups, one headed by Martha Stewart while the other with Pamela Anderson or something.
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ahmedjee, the same can be argued when nice guys say girls only go for "bad boys". It's still a massive generalization either way, cause there isnt only one type of bad boy. grin

Madhanee, it's not as bad as you made it sound like. Some men are not bad, just a tad bit bad. Lucky are those women who get a good balance of some good with lil bad.

Your bad.

No, sorry. My bad. I guess we are both bad since we are men.

Off topic! mad Please stick to da topic, tankoo. smile

Don’t be mad. Good women don’t get mad. Only bad men do. :mad2:

Topic reminds me of this book, The Bride Stripped Bare.

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Topic reminds me of this book, The Bride Stripped Bare.
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What was it about Anchal?

Oh my word that’s me :eek: I am just not attracted to nice boys, they have all been players, flirts, real dickheads actually. I think I am maturing slightly now though. :frowning:

Well I think generally bad boys would be more confident than the nicer ones, which would be attractive for the females. Also, bad boys kind of have that roung n tough image, which again is desireable for a few women.

Bride Stripped Bare, Its on the top ten list these days. The author choses to remain anonymous.

read it, will be hard to explain what its all bout. Its bout several things, love, lust, deceit.

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there are only two types of men: Bad and Very Bad.

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very funny

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there are only two types of men: Bad and Very Bad. There’s nothing in between.

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really? i thought there really were men who've never been bad.
waisay.... wat makes a man "bad"?

good thread Munni.

but by the time women get to realize that they ought to be with a guy who's kind, compassionate etc and reminds her of dad, they have crossed 35 and all the good guys who wanted to be with them lost out against the bad guys when they were younger...and thus life ends up the way it shouldnt have, for both, the woman and the guy who wanted to be with her...

omg! i was just abt to post this article myself :D

i dont know, ide rather go for stability than a crazy fling over some guy who thinks he's gods gift to women :o

What if cad-dad is found in one? I am serious.

they want to change the 'bad boy' into a good one, they want to mold them into what they want them to be..and of course, that never works out

Uh yeah, for people who lead the kind of lifestyle that permits them to engage in relationships that they know ahead of time isn't going to lead to anything in the long run, I guess they would have the option of hooking up with the bad boys since its "just for fun" cuz, heck, isn't that the only thing that bad boys are good for?

It's when women truly fall for the bad boys that things get kinda messy. I think every woman looks at the world through rose-colored glasses at one point or another in her early years, usually before getting a rude wake-up call by one of these "bad boys" or, more appropriately, "pathetic no-good narcissistic losers". Some women are so deluded that they actually believe everyone's got a bit of good in them, somewhere, and yeah, it's so cliche, but these bad boys so often play the role of victim so well and actually claim that the whole bad boy act was, well, just that - an act. Deep down, they're just wounded boys, insecure and afraid to love, or some other worthless bs like that, so commonplace, and yet we're so naive, we actually fall for it. In most of our cases, once is more than enough, but for others (those of us who are totally dense), we keep finding ourselves in that situation over and over again. Now those are the ones who need to go for serious treatment at the nearest facility (preferably one with padded rooms).

Point is (since I've done such a great job of straying so very far from it), to tell you the truth, I think Madhanee and Capricorn both have a point there, all men are either bad or very bad, and it may be rarefied, but if one could find a cad-dad (which would actually just be someone who was, bad, but not so bad - honestly I think they're as farfetched as Bigfoot, Unicorns, and Santa) - then yay, the woman's managed to do the impossible.