If time management is an issue with your significant other (male or female)....then talk about the issue about how much it bothers you. Tell them in advance the time you expect them to to be READY to leave the house. For example......We're leaving the house by 7:30......so I'd appreciate it if you can be completely ready by that time. And perhaps an hour before the time.....remind the person to start getting ready. Help the person with responsibilities (such as getting kids ready, wrapping a gift, cooking).....and that way they can work on getting ready themselves. Set time deadlines, if it helps.
Again, this is not about a particular couple and it is not personal.
I guess one important bullet missing from the opening remarks is that women have hard time understanding simple stuff ...... LOL
Plus, you think, for personal issues someone will look for Dear Abby here ? :)
Well that is wat i said.. we all do get ready on time.. But lets not forget now a days it is the other way around.. Men are never on time, worst part is when u see that they are not even ready properly
You can find an exception to pretty much anything....but
As most of world's main issues, this thread is about majority not 'some'.
If you talk about exceptions, I can definitely find few women who, unlike you, will face the reality and will 100% agree with me without trying to fight a lost battle...
Where have you used the word "MAJORITY" in your post? You go ahead and list qualities for both and men and women as if they are** ALL** a certain way. You even said that *"it is true that men are messy..." * Yes, I was pointing out that there are exceptions.....because people don't like to be stereotyped. Some people from both genders might even take offense to the stereotyping.
I tried to look at your thread from various angles. I tried to point out that it takes women longer because they have more options and more styles. Most people want to look good....especially for special occasions. And since women have more choices, it takes more time. Also, physical appearance plays a role in self-esteem. And it's natural to be upset if one feels that they have not been keeping themselves up. Even Islam encourages taking care of your body whether that applies to weight, skin, hair, etc. You're wondering what's the point. The point is that some women want to look nice for special occasions and even for their spouse....whether he understands the point or appreciates the effort or not.
IF your concern is time management.....I even posted some suggestions about how that issue can be handled. I
YOU asked for people to explain the "DILEMMA"......so you were looking for opinions/explanations. And while YOU may not agree with someone's opinions, there is no need to be rude. And I found your "UNLIKE YOU" comment to be RUDE. I guess that's the "INSENSITIVE" stereotype from your original post that is coming through.
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I wear a scarf and some guys have complained to me that I should take more time to choose a better looking scarf!!! smack I was so surprised to hear that.
iam sorry but i have told my friends a couple of times as well that they should wear more of a better looking scarf.. i know it is scarf but still u know how cute it will look if ur wearing like light blue or pink hat and then black scarf with beeds on it …
And RealityCheck.......has even stereotyped women to have difficulty understanding simple stuff.
I wasn't amused. The word simple is rather subjective. What is considered simple varies from person to person. There are issues that women in general find to be very simple and they feel frustrated when men can't comprehend them. And men can have the same concerns as well.
Comprehension can also depend on how the information is conveyed. If it if conveyed with a lack of clarity, for example, then comprehension of even a simple matter can be affected. What exactly is the purpose of this post? Is it simply to bash women and stereotype the whole entire lot? Is it an immature attempt to incite a verbal battle between the sexes? Or is the purpose to come up with constructive strategies on how to manage time?
Time management strategies **have been **suggested in this thread. Even reasons for why women get late (such as getting children ready and managing household chores ) have been mentioned in this thread. So what does the poster want to accomplish from this thread? It seems he doesn't want to understand the various causes that influence time management for women when they get ready........and it seems he doesn't want time management strategies either. So it's hardly fair to blame people for being unclear about this "simple" thread.
And look at the offensive stereotypical comments that have been made by RealityCheck about women. Examples:
**I guess one important bullet missing from the opening remarks is that women have hard time understanding simple stuff ...... LOL
Usually people do this when they have nothing intelligent to add to conversation and in case of women, it is always the case.
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How can** any** understanding take place about** any** issue.....if you are going to stereotype like this? In fact, such behavior is simply going to hinder mature communication.
I have had girls make suggestions too but girls normally talk about these things.
I mentioned this because the thread starter mentioned that women take too long to get ready, but my point here is that sometimes men want us to take time to choose things, what we wear, etc.
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I wishhhhh I could be on time for something at least once in my life. My wallet can attest to the fact that I have absolutely no idea what a schedule is… boy the number of times I use car service to get from point a to point b in a week (this past week alone I spent $167 on cabs) cuz im rushing out the door at the last minute and realize public transport or trekking it is gonna get me late or in trouble, or both. :hinna:
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Redvelvet - please seriously consider posting shorter, much shorter, and crisp posts. You have a lot of very positive stuff to add to so many issues, but the length of your posts makes a reader read the first two lines and scroll down
Or - try giving an executive summary before the detailed report
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^ I appreciate that you find my posts positive however you're not obligated to read my posts. And you certainly don't have to read them word for word. Jaanwar....I'm a reading teacher....that's why my degree is in. And according to educational research on the topic of reading........most people (regardless of gender) skim written text. In fact, most people don't even read every single word of the most entertaining novels written by their most favorite authors. Skimming is a natural part of the reading process in general.
Sometimes I respond with long posts and other times I respond with shorter posts....I don't go by length...I go by expression of ideas :)
And if my posts are tedious for you......you can skim or even ** skip** them all together. You're not hurting my feelings by doing either:)
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so wat if i spend 3 hours getting ready but im never late. but my brother he takes 10 minutes getting ready but hes always 10 minutes late.
hes organized and neat but still hes late and cant find his stuff when needed. im super clumsy and messy but i can find my things from heaps of clothes or paper.
Majority of my clients (image makeovers) are men.. 5 out of 6 are ALWAYS late! They don't look organized either.. nor do they look groomed. I'd like to differ.. it's men that need time management.. even with blowdrying hair.. finding the perfect dress and accessories women are there on-time AND looking pretty!
Men much rathar flip channels and wait till the last min.. and come up with the age-old excuse "Sorry, I got stuck in traffic..!"
Jaanwar, if they're going to take that much time.. u expect them to look proper. U're still supposed to look well-put together to get a makeover done. It's usually the girl waiting for the guy.. u'll seldom see a guy waiting for a girl! Thank God for nice cafe's.. and wifi
Jaanwar, if they're going to take that much time.. u expect them to look proper. U're still supposed to look well-put together to get a makeover done. It's usually the girl waiting for the guy.. u'll seldom see a guy waiting for a girl! Thank God for nice cafe's.. and wifi
And err.. the first meeting is a consultation ;)
If they dont look proper, you are doing a bad job!
Guys not waiting for girls has less to do with time management and more to do with men being the superior beings (here we go!)
LoL pagal.. I don't groom them during our first consultation! They can't take 2 hours to show-up and still look like they've gotten out of bed! If they're going to take that long they need to LOOK it!
