why women are nasty between themselves?

[Sasha21]

Re: why women are nasty between themselves?

@delhi2lahorekarachi

i am realising in my latter years that true friendship does exist sometimes but otherwise its all bs and time pass ke liye. You consider a friend close and you give her a friendship bracelet or best friends necklace and then few months you realise she lost it or didnt value it. It was all faltu till she found another close friend. All that is high school days but still. Friends are fickle these days. No more do dostis like Sholay exist. especially among female friends. when was the last time there was a movie revolving around female friendship like Sholay, Dil chahta hai etc? Female friendship has always been undervalued and something limited after a time. After marriage female friends hardly see each other much and sometimes talk can turn to jealousy. Male friends rarely ever ditch each other after marriage or say they are too busy to meet up or hang out. Sad but lots of female friendships have an expiry date.

They will ignore your messages, calls for months on end when its all good times. But if something is wrong they will knock on your door and want you to drop everything for them, no matter what responsibilities. Especially if you’re single then you’re faltu and you have all the time for you but they have no time for you because their day is taken up by so many responsibilities. Matlabi dost. Not everyone but so many in this category it makes me nearly give up on humanity. Insaaniyat ki koi cheez hi nahi. And people who have an aadat of being used will do all that happily for a friend till they realise the giving is unidirectional and you’re doing most of it.

I think men stick to their friends because I feel after marriage they mostly pave the way for who the couple will be mostly hanging out with. Then u have to end up making friends with their friends’ wives. And if they are the boring kind, "Aur kya haal hae, Aapkay ammi Abu theek thaak Haen, bachon ka school Kaesa ja raha hae " wagera wagera, u wouldn’t want to drag ur old friends into that. The husbands colleagues spouses I was meeting would be looking at my face with nothing to add if I brought something remotely interesting up , current affairs, social issues, (simple) scientific discoveries, health issues whatever. U have to brave the boredom on ur own. And keep ur fun normal friends seperate (and since my fun normal friends live in another country, it’s geographically impossible to bring them together).