Ok here’s something I’ve noticed that really annoys me! lol
It’s just so ridiculously stupid!?
Why is it that especially for those of us living in non-muslim countries..
Though our parents are sooo worried we’re gonna go and start hanging out with members of the opposite sex who are non-muslim or not ‘our people’.. when given the the chance to possibly meet and mingle with our fellow muslims nobody will talk to or often even look at each other?!
Mainly cause those same parents make it impossible to do so..
I mean these are the same guys and girls who’s parents have no problem with them talking to any non-muslim otherwise?? ie Talking very friendly at a store with a guy/girl working there?
For me personally I just could not be bothered..not out of arrogance or anything..but I just have gotten sick of this nonsense..
Why even bother? I could easily approach any non-muslim I like and start a conversation and become friends very easily without any hangups or bs.
ok I see alot of reads but no replies or comments from you guys.
I guess what really bothers me is I feel no sense of community around here. All this segregation and seperation amongst muslims is just stupid.
It's like .. I've got my non-muslim friends ..guy and girls.. and we all hang out together .. and manage to have fun without my having to compromise my beliefs whatever.. and it's cool cause we are all from different countries and have different cultures and religions... yet we all respect each other and get along great.
Then there are the muslim group.. who are entirely seperate.. bengalis, arab, indian , pakistani all seperated!?!
and they all have these interesting reasons why they don't mix etc ..and then even when they're all from the same place there are further subdivisions etc?
Yet I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels more comfortable and free to talk and befriend anyone I want outside the Pakistani desi community!?
well where i live i mostly see healthy mix of guz n gals with different backgrounds, same was in my sixthform, same at my workplace and ive seen the same in different universities...
Same here, our circle of family friends include Pakistani's, Indian (muslims, hindu, sikh), Dutchies (muslim, christians, jews, atheists), Arabs, Turkish, Maroc, a Bosnian, Surinam, all mixed. At my wedding, we had everyone come over and they mingled, the non-muslims even came to the mosque, where my actual 'wedding party' was, the dinner and all was served inthe mosque, and the non muslims were respectfull and without problem mingling with the mulsims, no 'separate Arab' corner, no separate 'non-muslim corner' or Pakistani corner.
though I must say, that what I've seen of teh Turqish people living in Dutchyland, that many seem to be nationalistic, hanging out more with their own people than with other nationalities, including Dutch. But apart from that, everybody mixes with everybody.
the only thing my parents didn't want, was for my while growing up to have non-muslim/non-Pakistani friends, because they were afraid I would be 'brainwashed' by 'western' ideas, but apart from that, we've always treated everyone with respect andmy folks don'thave teh 'double standard'.