Gupshup is like an glass of Sprite...
I live in my own little bubble in the world. Each other Guppy lives in there own little bubble in this world. Gupshup is where all the little bubbles can float around and see into all the other little bubbles of the world, without having to burst their own little bubble. Whats wrong with that?
Bottoms up!
i see the point that cricket playa is making...
i also wondered about it,
not pointing out anyone, but generally speaking and taking just an example, in threads i have seen a lot of girls discuss their anger toward their husbands due to some issue or disagreement that they face...and the typical responses that follow, can help and some are very insightful..but then in one or two responses the gupshup members along with giving appropriate advice also say/imply things to the extent "oh he is a jerk" or something else bad or insulting about the husband ... i have always wondered, if we as responders do this, doesn't the girl reading this feel something for her husband? that a stranger said this about her husband (even though she was herself mad at him, it must sometimes not feel nice to hear others call yoru husband a jerk), I can imgaine that some times ussay buraa bhi lagay ga ke kisi ne us ke husband ko aisay bola (eventhough everyone is anonymous i know)...
for example for me my relationship with my husband is similar to my relationship with my parents and siblings... no matter how serious a fight i have with my parents or my sibling, no matter how big the hurt is, I can't stand an outsider say something bad, or a swearword for my parents or my siblings....
now after marriage, i kinda have same feelings toward my husband...no matter how mad i am with him, and how unfair he may be ina particular situation...no matter how disrespectful he is in a particular fight....i can't stand an outsider , who doesn't even know him, to so quickly say hes a jerk, hes an idiot ...
unfortunately by posting relationship problems here, and getting responses from careless posters (myself included in these posters) sometimes, you do read those sorts of things about yoru significant other , doesn't it make you feel guilty?
i see the point that cricket playa is making... i also wondered about it,
not pointing out anyone, but generally speaking and taking just an example, in threads i have seen a lot of girls discuss their anger toward their husbands due to some issue or disagreement that they face...and the typical responses that follow, can help and some are very insightful..but then in one or two responses the gupshup members along with giving appropriate advice also say/imply things to the extent "oh he is a jerk" or something else bad or insulting about the husband ... i have always wondered, if we as responders do this, doesn't the girl reading this feel something for her husband? that a stranger said this about her husband (even though she was herself mad at him, it must sometimes not feel nice to hear others call yoru husband a jerk), I can imgaine that some times ussay buraa bhi lagay ga ke kisi ne us ke husband ko aisay bola (eventhough everyone is anonymous i know)...
for example for me my relationship with my husband is similar to my relationship with my parents and siblings... no matter how serious a fight i have with my parents or my sibling, no matter how big the hurt is, I can't stand an outsider say something bad, or a swearword for my parents or my siblings....
now after marriage, i kinda have same feelings toward my husband...no matter how mad i am with him, and how unfair he may be ina particular situation...no matter how disrespectful he is in a particular fight....i can't stand an outsider , who doesn't even know him, to so quickly say hes a jerk, hes an idiot ...
unfortunately by posting relationship problems here, and getting responses from careless posters (myself included in these posters) sometimes, you do read those sorts of things about yoru significant other , doesn't it make you feel guilty?
very well said. my exact sentiments..
i will noway ever be comfortable with anyone calling my husband a jerk or whatever regardless of how angry i was with him at the time.. its just not on..
Re: Why speak of personal issues?
I choose not to discuss sensitive/personal matters on a public forum because I am usually a private person and I do not feel comfortable sharing information about myself or my life to others...especially those that I dont know. If I do however decide to vent or share my feelings with anyone it will most likely be with the person who is involved or someone who I feel close to. I am a bit paranoid, skeptical about others, and highly cautious perhaps this is why I am hesitant to share things with people on a public forum or with those that I dont know/have never met.
However, that is just me and I dont see anything wrong with those that want to share their feelings, questions, or concerns on a public forum. These people may not have anyone they can trust or share their feelings/concerns with in their lives. They feel more comfortable sharing things with people that they do not know. What better way of communicating your personal concerns about life issues and getting feedback as well while remaining annonymous.
Re: Why speak of personal issues?
I think that a lot of people who post issues here are immature and shouldn't be in relationships in the first place because they're not remotely ready to be in one. With that said, i think there is something to be said for asking for opinions from an unbiased audience, it is a very fine line and requires a balanced view be given in the first place, it's tough to make sure that you don't divide your audience for or against you or the 'guilty party'.
It's just tough but I think an open, anonymous forum can help. I do think that most people who reply to these threads don't help very much, but there are a select few here on GS that are very sensible people.
Re: Why speak of personal issues?
I agree with the last 2 posters, plus you shouldn't disclose secrets about yourself or your spouse to anyone else, it is considered a major sin.