Why should MIL like or approve of her DIL?

[NomiCA]

Re: Why should MIL like or approve of her DIL?

@Paheli00

Mothers and wives need to always stop thinking about themselves…**.they need to consider the feelings of the man they both love (ie. the son/husband) **and the feelings of the children involved in the situation. They don’t have to like each other in order to be courteous/respectful towards one another.

I never knew women like you existed? are you real? a female trying to identify with a man’s problem?

you really are a paheli

AT topic,

MIL can not like/the DIL if the DIL doesn’t act nice…as paheli said…if a person acts nicely,usually there is no reason to dislike that person (exceptions are always there)..

[blackforest_360]

Re: Why should MIL like or approve of her DIL?

@Sehrysh

^ Playing Devil's Advocate here, in the circumstance I'm describing, the difference is the DIL chose to be in a relationship and marry the guy knowing the family's objections, the MIL did not choose the relationship.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not promoting a negative and confrontational relationship between a MIL and DIL - I just wonder why the DILs assume that acceptance for them should be immediate and that the MIL should love them to pieces right away.

Depends, how many women actually think that? Save for the few girls who never mentally grow up, I'd like to think women have a realistic view about relationships. None of this' lets be best friends because we're family now' business. I, for instance would enter a relationship with no expectation because it is silly to expect everyone to like you. In a nice grown up world I would hope that the MIL would have a legitimate reason for disliking me.