Me n my elder live together and the only reason my family allowed me to come to nyc all the way from saudia was b/c my brother was already here. So we live together n our life is like a normal desi family life, we do our jobs, try 2 hv breakfast n dinner together, spend weekends either with mutual friends or doing the house hold tasks.
I try 2 b home b4 11:00 PM(my friends joke abt me having a 10:00 clock curfew being a grownup independent women) and my brother avoids traveling for more then 3-4 days. I also dun travel 2 other places unless accompanied by my brother. And it’s not that none of us is capable of doing that, it’s just that v try 2 b careful. We were raised in saudia having a v sheltered life and v r very close each other n feel safe being with each other.
Now if I tell somebody that I live with my brother in the city and v both r unmarried, ppl get surprised in fact sum of them even hv guts to ask that y the hell v r not living separate. And it’s not only the gora ppl, even the desis I meet they ask or wonder abt it. And they are more surprised after learning that v do it voluntarily. May b it’s a city thing that ev1 living in the city had to live alone or some thing else?? I will never understand wat’s their issue???
Islamically, he is your brother and hence a maHram and living together is perfectly alright as long as you you have separate rooms for privacy sake. those who raise their eyebrows are the ones who believe in "when a boy and a girl are alone, the third one is shaitaan between them'...it's to some extent practiced in the West as well...here, if a couple has a son and a daughter over 12 years of age, they have to have a 3 bedroom dwelling as they expect the children to have their own rooms.
as far as people's comments are concerend...you should know this...IGNORE them! :)
kuchh to log kaheNge, logoN kaa kaam hai kahnaa
chhoRo bekaar kii baatoN ko, baatoN kaa kia karnaa
Islamically, he is your brother and hence a maHram and living together is perfectly alright as long as you you have separate rooms for privacy sake. those who raise their eyebrows are the ones who believe in "when a boy and a girl are alone, the third one is shaitaan between them'...it's to some extent practiced in the West as well...here, if a couple has a son and a daughter over 12 years of age, they have to have a 3 bedroom dwelling as they expect the children to have their own rooms.
as far as people's comments are concerend...you should know this...IGNORE them! :)
kuchh to log kaheNge, logoN kaa kaam hai kahnaa
chhoRo bekaar kii baatoN ko, baatoN kaa kia karnaa
I dont think those people say it for this reason. I think it is more the opposite of this.
Like why would a brother and a sister live together when they can live alone and have all the privacy and freedom they want.
I dont think those people say it for this reason. I think it is more the opposite of this.
Like why would a brother and a sister live together when they can live alone and have all the privacy and freedom they want.
i meant Islamic Privacy...NOT just physical privacy. a perfectly clean thing can be 'unclean' in Islam.
NOT every one can afford to have a separate dwelling...under one roof in separate rooms should be fine.
i think u guys made a great decision 2 live together, im sure being family u guys support each other in the best way possible! infact i wl say mA to the bond u guys seem to share where u are there for each other. i really appreicate this in families.
Between getting married and living with my husband, I lived with my brother and his family for a while--and I remember theendless questions and comments and ppl thinking it was odd...some even asked why I bothered to get married. :)
**Wow, I had no idea it was even considered an issue by desis. I know plenty of goray who, even after high school, or college, are room mates with their siblings. It’s easier to live with someone you know and understand than with a random person, or friends, who you’ve never lived with.
When ever the convo comes up, in my house hold, about my younger sister moving out for Uni, it’s always been an understood thing that she will either be living with my brother, or she will move in with me.
Due to our culture, religion, and what not… We know that, although she is capable of living on her own, and we trust her enough to know she won’t make a mistake that we’d have to worry about, it’s better to stay on the safe side to not only protect your self, but also those around you.
People talk if there is something good happening, or something bad.
Sorry you’re going through that. But remember, it is your life. As long as you know there’s nothing wrong or nothing that you or your family would be ashamed of, what others say should be irrelevant.
