When people arrive at USA for first time they are very innocent and you help them to get settle.Then after 2 or 3 years they change and start treating you as you are nothing and God forbid if they have gain success on you then their attitude change like they are everything while there was a time when they needed help and you were not treating them as garbage.
Does it always happen to me ,I always tried my best to help some new comers and after sometime they are backbiting or saying bad about me or showing me that how superior they are.
Now I am reserved now and don’t help people out not even giving them single opinion because I know it will come back to me.
Is it true or am I the only “pissy hoii” one:bummer:
Re: Why people change?
Yes,it usually happens with me too 
I think it happens with most of the people.The people who are like innocent and don’t have any idea about anything in the beginning,later they will start guiding you and behaving as if they know much more than you,and i hate it 
Re: Why people change?
well u cant be an expert on everything so them guiding you on things they have either more knowledge or different perspective should not be an ego issue u know.
however there are people who once settled really start treating ppl who helped them poorly. I think it is a couple of factors one is that i think those ppl are morons to begin with but selfish and were all buddy bussy when they needed you and then when they dont their real selves show up, secondly i think for others there is a little factor that since u knew what they were like and now they ahve crafted a new identity, they feel threatened etc.
Re: Why people change?
But they do it even when not asked,and they do it in a way to show that they know more than you,even when they don't,and start arguing,etc.
Re: Why people change?
ppl give their opinion all the time, maybe they feel you are always telling them what to do :)
and as far as knowing more or less, why does it matter, if they claim they know more..listen to it and let it go. to argue you need two parties, if someone says something that is false but they want to stick to their position just let it be. why counter with your own opinion, facts etc?
Re: Why people change?
I think it may have to do with lifestyle also. In USA life is just so very busy to the point of craziness. When you are striving to move up the corporate ladder, your workweeks are very long, vacations very short. Most cannot afford household help. Most people dont have the time anymore.
So it may not truly be that they are snubbing you Ume...they may just be too caught up in the "rat race" yeah?
Re: Why people change?
Umme ,
I agree with your observation, it happens yes, but it should not stop you from helping others if they need it or they ask for it.
In the process of helping others I have even lost thousands of dollars which I gave them as loan or cosigned a car loan or a home loan. But I never stop the next person who needs help.
Re: Why people change?
its like when u give the key to the lock of ur heart than they come and they stab you wiv it when entering it..its weird very harsh world out der....
Re: Why people change?
Ume, you're not alone. My family has helped so many relatives relocate here and get started with their lives only to find their snooty attitudes later. I think it has to do with as X2 says, them knowing you saw them a certain way which might not have been to their liking. To avoid that image, they avoid you. So, in reality they're snubbing that time in their life, pretending it never existed...not you. And then, sometime people truly do become obnoxious and think they're better then you now that they've spent 6 months here.
Regardless, you can only control your own actions...not theirs. :)
Koi baat nahin. You did what you had to with a clean heart and you will get rewarded for it. They will be held accountable for their actions and cant escape from that.
Re: Why people change?
I agree with the observation and this has happened to me many times. I guess there are two main reasons.
People don't care anymore. 'Piyar, muhabbat, respect, ehsaan mandi, khaloos, etc. is dunya sai khatam hotay ja rahay hein' but that shouldn't stop you helping, in general
It's like when you grow your kids, train them, explain them good and bad etc. time comes when they want to fly on their own and don't need/like too much of parenting so it's best to pull back and let them live their lives.
To answer the thread literally...
People change because ....
Universe is changing constantly, the only constant is a change itself...