Why Pakistani men don't like that a woman pursues them and proposes them?

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discuss, why Pakistani men on average, do not accept a woman liking them first and right after that, proposing them?

is it the courtship thrill?
tease of the chase?

or their loss of some perceived status of nromh the initiator in a relationship?

what do they miss out on,** so badly**, that a woman who would want to propose them, becomes their rejected or impossible mate?

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Re: Why Pakistani men don't like that a woman pursues them and proposes them?

if a guy really loves you he wouldn't care who proposed, he would be glad that you guys together....its something stupid that shouldn't matter.

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if they date girls frequently, they wont like it, because they dont want to get tied down to only one girl, if they are shareef, like me, they wont mind.

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true

also** Afridi **you are right

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does that mean that one should give up liking and proposing him?

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^^No. You shouldn't give up being who you are because someone else can't handle it because of their own lack of maturity. It's not your problem. It's his.

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because a woman is signified by "haya" and "sharam" and all. they're supposed to "not" want sex. not know about sex. be the innocent flower that hasnt bloomed. innocent. clueless. dont know how to fix the car oh gawd can u help me mister. hahaha.

on the other hand when a woman goes up and asks a guy out it sends two signals....one: she knows what she wants and she aint the clueless type. two: the guy's thinking..."she asked me out..who knows how many she's been with before me?"

so its up to you to decide whether u wanna be with a guy that thinks this way. by the way there do exist guys that dont believe in playing games and think its ok for a girl to initiate friendship/proposal but just the other day i was reading an article written by a fairly educated desi guy, who has never even been to pakistan, about the rules of dating and the first point was to make the guy chase you and not the other way round. so its not fair to say that only pakistan-raised men think this way.

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I think it also has to do with control. Some men like to feel like they are in control of the relationship (not necessarily a bad thing). If a woman takes charge and is assertive about the direction of the relationship, some guys don't like it cause they feel like they are losing control.

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i chase cockroaches at my home and mercilessly kill them. other than that i've never chased anything. yes, i was chased by a dog when i was little. not a good experience at all.

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errrrr no issues there at all. dont se why guys will have a problem especially if it is a girl that they like as well.

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Part of getting a girl is the process of getting her in the first place...so by the girl doing everything...you can take that sense of achievement away...

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Keeping all Haya and Sharam aside, one of my friends just got married.When this gal(His Wife Now)found out his Mangani is broken. She proposed him, he said "yes" n got married last month.
Personally, i wouldn't mind it, i have gone through such experience, but i backed off.

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If you are a hot girl, most guys are ready before you even smile. Background, education, religion..all take a backseat all of a sudden. They are in love before you even open your mouth. go figure!

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A woman's initiative in a relationship doesn't make her a dictator. Pace and terms of a relationship can be agreed upon mutually regardless of who took the initiative. A guy could use miss out on a great gal or a relationship by succumbing to thier ego/faux-masculanity. If a woman takes an initiative in a r'ship, embrace it lads; give it a fair chance.

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Re: Why Pakistani men don’t like that a woman pursues them and proposes them?

:naraz:

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btw, Stalkers don't count :)

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I wouldn't mind. It's happened to me once, but the girl's career was not compatible with my career so I had to say no.

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Men saying no? :eek: How dare.

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i know ahmadjee, nashukray kaheen kay :cb:

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Dushwari, i never really met a guy who thought it was not appropriate for a girl to propose, i mean we have a prime example of it in our religion.

i don't think there's anything wrong with it. it takes guts.