My thread is not based on my feelings, it is based on my personal observations. I also know many interracial couples who are happily married for decades now , but more got divorced and as I said some after couple of years some after decades even after the kids got grown up and the nest was empty. If you read my first post I am not generalizing. I was trying to find out what might have gone wrong in those which did not work out.
Well, I would guess they have pretty much the same issues as desis married with desis have these days. Lack of communication, interference of in-laws, cheating, etc. Other than that I can't think of anything unique because surprisingly we are hearing of as many divorces in desis as well.
But then I don't know that many examples so someone may provide a better perspective.
Yeh Mushtaq Ahmed ka hasad tha jiss nay unko yeh likhnay per majboor kia warna Pakistani gorion k husn hee pay to mar mit ta hay .
rahi baat sabz pattay k lee a shadi karnay key tus uss ka anjam toh yeh hona hee hay.
So what % of White goris belonging to upper middle class American families date paki lads ?
Bhai we are only good for helping them doing their assignments … step bit closer and you will getting a round kick .. am telling ya
Well, I would guess they have pretty much the same issues as desis married with desis have these days. Lack of communication, interference of in-laws, cheating, etc. Other than that I can't think of anything unique because surprisingly we are hearing of as many divorces in desis as well.
But then I don't know that many examples so someone may provide a better perspective.
I would tend to agree, but I heard about one such divorce it happened because this girl said that her life got very boring after getting married to this Pakistani guy. She missed clubs , concerts, her former male friends etc etc.
Although he was not a practicing Muslim but she was. But one fine morning she moved out and filed for divorce .
I knew this couple first hand , they were close family friends of my SIL. She said that to my SIL.
So what % of White goris belonging to upper middle class American families date paki lads ?
Bhai we are only good for helping them doing their assignments … step bit closer and you will getting a round kick .. am telling ya
Husn ka class say kia taaluq ?
I would not know about what goes on in the campuses as I attended one semester of one University in CA , that too as an audit student , so I used that time to explore USA instead of trying to be romantic. So I will take your words for it.
Re: Why Pakistani dude and white girls/women end up in divorce ?
I think most Pakis think they are kings of the world when they land a white girl.
So when they marry them, all they think is how their friends and relatives will react when they bring home a white girl so that they overlook if they are actually compatible with each other.
Thats why these kinds of marriages break down faster.
I would tend to agree, but I heard about one such divorce it happened because this girl said that her life got very boring after getting married to this Pakistani guy. She missed clubs , concerts, her former male friends etc etc.
Although he was not a practicing Muslim but she was. But one fine morning she moved out and filed for divorce .
I knew this couple first hand , they were close family friends of my SIL. She said that to my SIL.
Mirch bhai, as strange as it may sound to you but I have heard of desi women who got "bored" as well and chose to have affairs. In fact there was a Life thread about it a couple of months ago started by someone else and I have posted there as well. People argued that maybe her husband wasn't fulfilling his responsibilities or maybe there was no communication between them or maybe the differences were too great so she had no other option. Don't know if you remember that thread.
PS I'm not trying to prove anything here. Just trying to find similarities between the 2 groups, if any.
Re: Why Pakistani dude and white girls/women end up in divorce ?
What I have never figured out about Paki/Gora weddings is why is the Pakistani guy willing to sacrifice everything for her? For a Pakistani girl a lot of guys will be extremely judgmental, judging their height, family history, shape of nose, occupation of grand dad, size of house before partition, how fat the mother in law is, who her friends are, how many guy friends she has on facebook and all kinds of ridiculous criteria.
Re: Why Pakistani dude and white girls/women end up in divorce ?
oh sheesh...there are many specific reasons why couples divorce but they all have one thing in common - things have broken down to the point that the couple no longer has a desire to remain together. This goes for whether its an inter-cultural marriage or not. I've really seen no common threads in divorced couples beyond that, and ALL successful marriages I've seen whether inter-cultural or not - are all successful because husband and wife are a TEAM. No marriage is a fairly tale, every marriage has difficulties but when you work together, have the same views and goals and throw a bit of love into the equation, you will find a successful marriage.
BTW, the very vast majority of divorces I've seen in my own personal experiences have been due to abuse. NONE due to cultural differences. A couple of divorces due to immature people who grew up and discovered that they made the wrong choice.
If you wonder about a certain couple that you know, why not ask? It is typically a releif when this ice is broken and the person will likely be glad to chat with you and share experiences.
Re: Why Pakistani dude and white girls/women end up in divorce ?
Mirch and all those who think desi man/gori woman marriages are wrong, I will tell you one thing about desi married women atleast in Pakistan, they had more affairs then guys put together. And all you guys going to Pakistan to marry desi girls, sorry to say out of 10 women you will find maybe 1 who doesn't have a affair before marriage. :)
Come out of your hangover , nobody here is saying that they are wrong. Also this thread is not about pre or post marital affairs.
Wake up and smell the chai.
Re: Why Pakistani dude and white girls/women end up in divorce ?
what religion the children will follow is the reason why some of the couples in my circle, got divorced... even though neither side was too religious or imposing their faith on the other.. all of a sudden when a child came into the picture.. hell broke lose...
but i do have 2 friends married to desi men... and they get along great... both couples have decided not to have children though.
