Now I know that Islamically when you are going through a rough patch in life, instead of asking “Why me?” you are supposed to be patient and be a stronger muslim b/c you are being tested.
But I am having a really, really hard time getting past the “Why me?” syndrome.
These past few years have been really rough for me, and it just seems like one disaster after another. I come from a strong religious background…I believe in Allah and Islam with all my heart…but I am having such a hard time with this. It seems like the disasters are just never ending. I feel bitter and resentful…and that makes me feel guilty. My parents keep telling me to be grateful, and to pray and seek guidance, but I’ve found I’ve lost my desire to do this. I used to pray regularly-and I just can’t… This just angers them more.
I need help…I don’t hate Allah (SWT)…I…don’t even know anymore…I am just stuck in this rut, and my life is a mess, and I just can’t turn the way I am supposed to-which is probably WHY life keeps on getting worse.
Any advice you have to give me would be really appreciated. Thank you.
If the best life were the easiest life, why would the most exalted prophet of mankind be born as an orphan, lose his mother at a young age, lose his guardian soon after, and live as a shepherd through his childhood?
i am truly sorry to hear this, 714. But you know something - i know it’s easy for me to state this and extremely difficult to actually believe in one’s life - but, sometimes the hardest challenges in life come to those people whom Allah wants to test for whatever reason. While i was reading your post, i was thinking of this one elderly individual i know in my personal life - she became a widow at an extremely early age, had to take care of her one son all by herself. Had no help from almost anyone. i can’t go into details about what a difficult life she has led but trust me - the past 40 years, she’s been pretty much all alone. The most amazing part is that her imaan in Allah never decreases. Despite all her troubles, Masha’Allah she is the only one i know in my life, who is so close to Allah, always praying, always asking Him for forgiveness, always kind and just towards others - even though, people have been rarely kind towards her. i know it’s hard to realize this in life, but i think it really is the nice people in life who get tested in this world.
One of the several quotes from the Quran that really gets me through a difficult day/week/month is this one:
And of course there’s my signature:D The only reason i chose it as my signature is because i truly believe - if you turn to Allah, EVEN if you are feeling in a “Why always me?” attitude, He will reward you with sakoon eventually. Maybe not right away, but at a time when it’s best for you.
i wish i could articulate it in beautiful words to help you, but unfortunately this may be the best i can do for now. Remember though that you are NEVER alone, i am certain we ALL feel this way from time to time. i know i do. But never give up on Allah, and He will never give up on you. As Lajawab stated, sometimes the best times to pray are when one doesn’t feel like it. Anyone who sincerely reaches out to Allah - He always reciprocates.
714, I'm sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, I know how you feel. I've had misery for the past 5/6 years of my life. I too was feeling exactly as you do, even months ago. I must tell you, never to forget Allah. Imade that mistake, I kept thinking why me? I forgot prayers, didn't feel like it anymore. And when I forgot Allah, then things really got worse! I think I've been now through the worst part of my life, sometimes you have a problem and you think things can't get worst, but when you forget Allah, that's when things REALLY get worst!
Just pray and leave everything else to Allah. Even when you don't feel like praying, force yourself and the love for salaat will return and when you pray with your heart, Allah will give you strenght to carry your burdens, in_sha_Allah and help you on your way to victory.
You are only human. It’s natural I guess to have these kind of feelings too. But guilt won’t get you anywhere. Just force yourself to do salaat and read Quran. It will soften your heart and give you peace.
I wish I could advise you. If I dont know what you do, how you conduct your business, your dealings with friends and family etc, I cant really give any advise. I will say one thing, Allah is closest to us at the time of tahajjud (prolly 1.5 to 2 hrs before the call for Fajr prayers). It is at this time that you need to, with sincerety and a clean heart prey 2 to 8 nawafil and recite verses from the Glorious Quraan and ask for Allah's help and mercy. May Allah have mercy on all of us and guide us all to the path of siraat-al-mustaqeem - Ameen
shaikh saadi (ra) was once in a very bad situation economically....
and to make matters worse, he was travelling....
so it so happened, that he was left bare foot....
so he was sitting outside a mosque and complaining to Allah that He has forgotten him and put him in such a bad condition that he has to walk bare foot on the hot burning sand of the desert....
and as he was praying, he saw a man, with no legs, crawling himself to the mosque, and when he reached the steps, he thanked Allah that he had gievn him the power to reach the mosque so he could pray....
shaikh saadi (ra) was quick in compariong himself with the crawling guy and sought forgiveness from Allah for being so untankhful and thanked Him for atleast giving him a healthy body so he cud walk upright....
when in trouble, always see ppl in conditions worse than u, so u can be thankful to Allah....
