Why Marry?

Lifestyle Relationships
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can i answer?

with marriage, comes all the** ILS**, especially:

MIL, the villain!

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It is hard to be a single man. The lack of sex, physical and emotional intimacy is very frustrating. Most men realize that they have to settle down into some kind of long term committed arrangement (in our society that's marriage) if he expects to fulfill these needs/wants regularly. That is the biggest incentive for men.

I dont see most men grow up dreaming about finding the perfect girl to live happily ever after with. Yet, by the age of 25 most are either in committed relationships, engaged, married or pestering their moms to find them brides. Why? is it because they suddenly start longing for children? I doubt that happens before 40. Security? Social acceptance and peer pressure? I doubt we men face these pressures to the same degree women face.

I wish men were in a better position to decide whether they really really want marriage or not. Most of us don't have that luxury. I'm not generalizing. Some men are lucky and yet still decide to get married early.

Who's gonna disagree that if men could attract women easily (as easily as vice versa) there will be far fewer men keen and willing to get married? Thats the uncomfortable reality of marriage both men and women deny.

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the one reason in my eyes to get married is your need and desire to have a companion in your life. one with whom you can share your life with. the emotional satisfaction you get when you have a companion you can rely on and the need to feel satisfied that you have someone who looks forward to you.
and i think if you do not have this need and can lead a satisfied life without it then there is no harm in choosing to remain single.

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Oh wow…..where is this? Pakistan?

BTW, by "legal civil partnership"…..are you also including common law marriages?

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Being a Muslim, it's not like I can just live with somebody not being married to them. If the restriction wasn't there, you'd be right.

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Darn right that restriction is there. As much as men would like to freely coinhabit and sew seeds without responsibility, it wrecks the stability of society and families can't be raised in any sort of peace. Sure some kids handle it ok. I used to teach and the worst kids had a divorce going on in the family and they are emotionally scarred long term from it. None of those kids did well in fact I had to fail one.

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Another reason why people marry is so they can label someone as exclusively theirs. Of course, marriage doesn't prevent people from cheating, but it does put restrictions on the couple and lets others know who is off limits.

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Wait, is the OP comparing getting married vs remaining single forever or getting officially married vs simply living with someone? Those are two different things.

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So the most frequently cited reason is sex.

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1) to raise your own family and have some legal responsibility towards your children. (i think everything else can be obtained if you have enough money)

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Of course that's a great reason, however OP asked about people who don't want to start a family just yet. Why do they get married? In that situation being in committed relationship, that's not marriage (or anything on paper), would not be a bad idea. However we have our religious and cultural limitations.

You might consciously decide to delay having a family, however there is no way of convincing your instincts. You just want to be with somebody, that's just how we work and there's little you can do to help it. You can't fight your biology forever.

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Well..to raise family as my fellow guppy said above. We marry because..it keeps us away from temptation and other things in life. Marriage keeps both husband and wife in check..in terms of their responsiblities, their rights and obligation to each other, their family and the society in general. Ladies and gentleman..that is why we marry.

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I can understand posting without reading the whole thread, but can't understand posting even without reading the first post.

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well if you dont want a family (as in kids) then i dont see why anyone would get married...then isnt it just more convenient to cohabit as boyfrnd/grlfriend and then just walk out when you're over them . i think thats what a lot of couples in the west do nowadays but traditionally society/culture/religion tries to chain people down in case these couples decide to have kids.

i really dont see a point to marriage except raising children together...and after years of marriage if you ask any couple their most important asset in a marriage is their kids...not even each other.

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how about religion? religion encourages you to marry rather than engage in sin...no?

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Religion encourages you to marry not only for kids but also to save ourselves from sin but still somebody wanna live in bf/gf relation then enjoy the sinful life, who cares.

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People don't just marry to have kids.

They marry for companionship, love, friendship, kids, to take care of their parents, etc etc etc.

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what????

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exactlyyy...whattt...to take care of their parents??? omg flawed desi mentality!!

since when does love translate into marriage....silly girls. so two people that are living together as a couple for 10+ years without saying the marriage vows are not in love??

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marriage for friendship??? i'm so confused