Why make Dua when everything is pre written??

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Re: Why make Dua when everything is pre written??

@redvelvet

^Psyah Bhai… Dua maangnay walay ko nahi pata if what he is fervently asking for is in his best interest or not. “Comes with a price” sounds like “making the asker pay.” Why would Allah make us pay for making dua about something that we first of all had no idea if it’s even good for us let alone that the knowledge that it goes against the fate decreed for us? Is that in accordance with the quality of mercy?

I remember praying for something sooo regularly. I made dua in sajood…I made dua acter recitation of Quran…I don 't think I ever asked for anything with so much energy and attachment and persistence. I didn’t get what I wanted. I am grateful for that now because it wasn’t until much much later that I saw more clearly how harmful the thing was for me. At various points along this journey of dua making…I saw red flags which I dismissed.

A couple years ago someone on GS posted that her friend had prayed and prayed to get married to a particular guy. Allah granted her wish and she had a miserable marriage… After which she said that perhaps this was the result of her zidd… That she should have been careful about what she wished for. But I saw it as qismat. She was meant to get married to that guy regardless of whether her dua was more like a zidd or or much less than that. Otherwise… There are plenty of examples of folks around the world who were not granted their zidd.

1. The Mercy is already there, with our selfish du’as we want to change that … the purpose of du’a is not fulfilment of it … but to be drawing closer to Allah (SWT). Sometimes du’as are not accepted because Allah (SWT) wants the slave to continue asking - placing him at the doorstep of Mercy.

2. It is my belief that Allah (SWT) has already given us what is in our best interest, but we don’t realise it, so we do know what is in our best interest - it is our taqdeer. Our weakness causes us to ask for something different, the Mercy in this is that our displeasure with our kismet causing us to ask from Allah (SWT) in du’a is equal to a reward … so this is how the Mercy should be understood.

3. Again the way the marriage is being viewed and the guy is being viewed and the predicament is being viewed is in the sense that “they are evil” … however, the way to view all of these things is that after getting in the marriage or predicament has it made the person remember Allah (SWT) more or less? If more then that has been a good thing despite them feel stressed over it and if less then it is a bad thing despite them being happy over it.