Why do we stress on the wife being in good shape, dressing well, looking good for her husband otherwise he may “slip” and find another woman, and we hardly ever say the men should also make an effort to look good for their wives. Come on folks, why the pressure just on the women?
(This isn’t about my husband so don’t be bringing him in, especially you JimmyKimble and Shak09 
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Re: Why just the women?
True....should be the same for men too....I have already tell my to be hubby that he better not get fat :D
because men think the tid is their shaan
PS: TLK bhai u needz ta join a gym :p
runs
Re: Why just the women?
nik, I think the hubbys usually dont have these same issues. Sure, some guys put on the poundage with age but for the most part, guys have a more stable type of life. We women have the hormonal fluctuations, the pregnancies, etc and so are much more prone to gain weight, get flabby tummies, put all our efforts into kids, hubs and home and leave ourselves for last if at all. the guys have much less to worry about in the general scheme of things and so are somewhat less vulnerable.
Re: Why just the women?
well. men always have to provide, have a sense of humour. etc.
Re: Why just the women?
MO3, true…but I’ve seen a lot of men from our culture who just let themselves go. Wives are well dressed in designer wear while the hubby doesn’t even wear a decent pair of jeans. Also, they feel free to burp in parties 
wow you knew I was going to do that.
But All I had to say was, you did work out and got into shape 
now you its not you turn… that all I got to say… not saying any names here…
Nikz I think in our culture (or any culture for that matter), women are supposed to be graceful… naturally graceful… and somehow they fail to see that grace in a chubby woman… on the other hand, graceful men are referred to as gays among desis!
But I agree with you. Desi men need to dress nicely, speak nicely and behave!
Something interesting ---a man once came to Abdullah ibn Abbas from a distant land to ask him questions about religion because he knew he was a very knowledgeable sahaba. When the man came, he found Abdullah ibn Abbas grooming himself and making himself look good, and the man was taken aback and discouraged by this and said, I have come from so far to ask you about the deen and yet I find you occupied like this. and Abdullah ibn Abbas replied, I have found this in the Quran --meaning that it is from the etiquette of a good husband to take care of his appearance to please his wife-- and he also said, I like to beautify myself for my wife as I like her to beautify herself for me
--So it is definitely not fitting for a good husband to maintain a double standard of expecting his wife to look good, while not making any effort to look good for her
Re: Why just the women?
Because men are Allah's gift and blessing to us women folk so we should not ask for anything, instead pray 2 nafl shukranay everytime his tond grows 1 inch more :)
Re: Why just the women?
you are going to live a very happy married life.... :D
mashallah:fraudia:
On a serious note, it should be a two way street. A relationship requires both parties to actively participate to make it work. Looking good and pleasing for one another should be a basic requirement, something which one should not even have to emphasise.
MO3, true...but I've seen a lot of men from our culture who just let themselves go. Wives are well dressed in designer wear while the hubby doesn't even wear a decent pair of jeans.
Please telll my walid mohtaram that people do notice these things and he HAS to dress appropriately.
Because men are Allah's gift and blessing to us women folk so we should not ask for anything, instead pray 2 nafl shukranay everytime his tond grows 1 inch more :)
Khumar sarcasm or not ... i'll take that as a compliment
Re: Why just the women?
You ladies should really relax.
I don’t want to look out of shape to my wife ever!!!
We have some pride you know 
And when we grow old together 
I want her to get fat few years before I do.
AND that if she is ALREADY not fat…
Considering that she might be a pakistani girl… chance are she is going to be fat already.
Because men are Allah's gift and blessing to us women folk so we should not ask for anything, instead pray 2 nafl shukranay everytime his tond grows 1 inch more :)
There you go. Khumar beautifully summed it up in one sentence. There is no need for any further discussion. Mods can close this thread now.
Maybe thats how they can afford the designer wear 
My man is well spoken and well behaved. 
Somehow I find more comfort in this type of couple (good looking wife, eh hubby) than the opposite…an “average” wife with a super hot guy. double standards, mean, Idk 
Because men are Allah's gift and blessing to us women folk so we should not ask for anything, instead pray 2 nafl shukranay everytime his tond grows 1 inch more :)
I was once engaged. I swear to God that girl more then once asked me to get fat. :D
oh come on sara, you know the opposite is true. why else would everyone say by seeing a lot of the couples “langoor kay baghal main hoor” or errrr something like that.
and who was complimenting you
Alhamdulilah Mashallah
well…everyone’s got their own fetishes…
Look at the bright side, you wont have to bug him for a water bed by the time he’s 40 