Re: Why is this so hard?
@Jaanwar: :x2:
"Why is this so hard?"
Thats what she said.
Well, that is all I had to say :D
LMAO! Brilliantly done!
Re: Why is this so hard?
are your parents involve in the search too? may be they can hook you uo with someone and you never know you may even like that person. It is not hard to find but a lot of these qualities do evolve as relationship or liking eveloves, it is very difficult to judge someone 100% without living with them. I am not suggesting that you live with every potential match but have your mom or someone else who you consider wise judge for yuo as well.
Trust me you can never judge anybody just in few meeting months or years, some ppl marry ther cousins that they knew their whole life and still get surprises. I myself knew my husband for good 10 years before marrying him but I still get surprises about him once in a while, this is reality of us humans.
I would suggest look for your match with open mind and make dua, inshallah you will find your partner/spouse/whatever you want to call him..
Trust me you can never judge anybody just in few meeting months or years, some ppl marry ther cousins that they knew their whole life and still get surprises. I myself knew my husband for good 10 years before marrying him but I still get surprises about him once in a while, this is reality of us humans.
The above is so true !
Remember that everything that glitters is not gold.
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Its usually glitter eye make up.
@ OP, your resistance only makes me harder.
I recently joined This site. So thought of asking something which I absolutely dont understand.
I am single female, 26 years of age and from Lahore but lived most of my life time in UAE. I've been looking for a match for my self but so far no luck. Its not that I dont get to meet guys but none of them have few qualities which I need in my life partner and are simply not negotiable. I believe every women wants her partner to be honest, loyal & understanding. Specially Loyalty is something which I dont see in men here. Married men flirting with the girls pretending they are single, committed guys cheating girls on the name of love, guys trapping girls for money.
And heyyyyy there is a new trend.... Unemployed young guys have made this thing business that they flirt around with girls to take financial benefits as our girls are still very emotional about such relationships and they will help their love to maximum possibility.
I dont know whats wrong.....is it just my circle or they whole society is ethically dying. May be I am misfit as m straight forward, hardly know hypocrisy neither I will be impressed by social status or money. My mother says I should really give up the idea of finding these angel like qualities in guy for my self or at least not in Pakistan.
I know this kind of people will be every where but ratio is far lesser than Pakistan Because men have no fear of Cheating, dishonesty and using girls as there is no law to protect such women neither society encourages them to take stand.
Its been 3 years am looking but now I'm really considering my mothers advice. Why our society is losing respect for women......am I being very demanding or what?
shed some light on it....Anyone ????
a friend of mine is looking for husband for her sister. her sister is highly educated. they are finding it really hard to find someone who is educated, at least close to her, well behaved, and from good family and earning.
if someone is earning something, would not be educated. if educated than other options are missing.
"Why is this so hard?"
Thats what she said.
Well, that is all I had to say :D
"Why is this so hard for you to understand?"
Re: Why is this so hard?
have more faith in God
when the time is right for you, He will make it happen
don't worry
I recently joined This site. So thought of asking something which I absolutely dont understand.
I am single female, 26 years of age and from Lahore but lived most of my life time in UAE. I've been looking for a match for my self but so far no luck. Its not that I dont get to meet guys but none of them have few qualities which I need in my life partner and are simply not negotiable. I believe every women wants her partner to be honest, loyal & understanding. Specially Loyalty is something which I dont see in men here. Married men flirting with the girls pretending they are single, committed guys cheating girls on the name of love, guys trapping girls for money.
And heyyyyy there is a new trend.... Unemployed young guys have made this thing business that they flirt around with girls to take financial benefits as our girls are still very emotional about such relationships and they will help their love to maximum possibility.
I dont know whats wrong.....is it just my circle or they whole society is ethically dying. May be I am misfit as m straight forward, hardly know hypocrisy neither I will be impressed by social status or money. My mother says I should really give up the idea of finding these angel like qualities in guy for my self or at least not in Pakistan.
I know this kind of people will be every where but ratio is far lesser than Pakistan Because men have no fear of Cheating, dishonesty and using girls as there is no law to protect such women neither society encourages them to take stand.
Its been 3 years am looking but now I'm really considering my mothers advice. Why our society is losing respect for women......am I being very demanding or what?
shed some light on it....Anyone ????
take off ur rose colored glasses and u'll find some 1
a friend of mine is looking for husband for her sister. her sister is highly educated. they are finding it really hard to find someone who is educated, at least close to her, well behaved, and from good family and earning. if someone is earning something, would not be educated. if educated than other options are missing.
So true.
a friend of mine is looking for husband for her sister. her sister is highly educated. they are finding it really hard to find someone who is educated, at least close to her, well behaved, and from good family and earning. if someone is earning something, would not be educated. if educated than other options are missing.
Seriously na I feel sorry 4 these girls, they r just wasting their time if nothing else. Education, earnings, good family etc. none of these factors guarantee a good married life so y restrict urself for these requirements???
the only thing that should matter is that whether 2 ppl can get along with each other or are ready 2 get along with each other
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There may be two things you might be doing not right:
- Looking in the wrong places.
- Taking the wrong path for your searches.
You cannot just go crazy on the road and expect to find decent guys. And trust me decent guys do exist, I happen to know a couple of them myself. So, I don't know where you have been searching or what you have been looking for, but the world is full of good men.
Just as a fact I was reading the other day: By ~2030, in Pakistan, the women population will be 75% meaning 3:1 ratio. Its gonna be tough competition!
Its not that I dont get to meet guys but none of them have few qualities which I need in my life partner and are simply not negotiable.
So you wrote here that none of the guys you met have the qualities you're looking for in a life partner. The rest of your post talks about how men cheat on their wives, lie, date women for money etc...
My question is what exactly was wrong with the guys you met? The guys you met...were any of them liars? Did any of them have a history of dating women for money? Were any of them previously married and cheated on their wives?
I'm wondering what specifically was wrong with the guys YOU met. The particular guys you met yourself, what "quality" were they lacking?
Seriously na I feel sorry 4 these girls, they r just wasting their time if nothing else. Education, earnings, good family etc. none of these factors guarantee a good married life so y restrict urself for these requirements??? the only thing that should matter is that whether 2 ppl can get along with each other or are ready 2 get along with each other
There's more to life than just 'getting along'.........
Even getting along for the time being doesnt guarantee a good life......You never know what may happen
There may be two things you might be doing not right:
- Looking in the wrong places.
- Taking the wrong path for your searches.
You cannot just go crazy on the road and expect to find decent guys. And trust me decent guys do exist, I happen to know a couple of them myself. So, I don't know where you have been searching or what you have been looking for, but the world is full of good men.
Just as a fact I was reading the other day: B*y ~2030, in Pakistan, the women population will be 75% meaning 3:1 ratio.* Its gonna be tough competition!
Where did you read that?
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What a BS prediction.
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I cannot remember where I read/heard it. But it is not a prediction. It is a projection. Demographics are never predicted. Using trends they extrapolate population structures.
a friend of mine is looking for husband for her sister. her sister is highly educated. they are finding it really hard to find someone who is educated, at least close to her, well behaved, and from good family and earning. if someone is earning something, would not be educated. if educated than other options are missing.
What are the "other options" that are missing if someone is educated. Care to elaborate?
Re: Why is this so hard?
Every thing is Meant to be this way
Your Match is Written ....
You Just need to Pray that it come early for you now :)
Aour Jaisa app Husband chah rahi hain - Pray to Allah
Dua Takdeeer badal sakti ha
Good luck