It seems like younger generations refuse to stay in unhappy marriages.
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is that a bad thing?
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not necessarily.
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I think that as women get more empowerment, are able to earn a living for themselves and be able to live independently, they are less inclined to remain in an unhappy marriage. In the past, women did not have the educational or professional opportunities that they are able to acheive today and this made them very dependent upon their husbands and no choice other than to stay in the marriage and live with it.
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mamaof,
is there any stigma against divorced people?
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Half of the empowered women getting divorces in Pakistan, get it for the sake of getting it. Its absolutely fabulous getting out of an unhappy marriage but our new found love for divorces is based partially on illusions of unhappy marriages.
People have started to feel so at ease with the idea of divorce, that they are doing it for the wrong reasons, without trying to put any effort at all in making it work. That's why I on going like a broken record keh bhai don't make a divorce sound so trivial.
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As anyone who has even considered divorce well knows, it surely is NOT a trivial thing. It is every bit as monumental a decision as marriage - perhaps more so. I have never met a divorced person who underwent the whole thing as a triviality.
And Saap, I'm sure that in certain circles there is undoubtedly stigma attached to divorees. Yet I was blessed in never having faced it myself. I went on to meet my prince charming and have my beautiful boyz and be accepted into his loving and wonderful family.
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Mamaof3, you would be surprised. Realization that its not trivial sometimes comes afterwards when you have burnt all the bridges.
thats wonderful, mamaof!
Half of the empowered women getting divorces in Pakistan, get it for the sake of getting it. Its absolutely fabulous getting out of an unhappy marriage but our new found love for divorces is based partially on illusions of unhappy marriages.
People have started to feel so at ease with the idea of divorce, that they are doing it for the wrong reasons, without trying to put any effort at all in making it work. That's why I on going like a broken record keh bhai don't make a divorce sound so trivial.
scratch,
work is essential for marriage, i agree. but once the marriage cannot be saved, one must face it.
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As women progress in their careers and realize their independance, they dont feel the need to "put up" with a bad relationship. There are plenty more fish in the sea! I think before a lot of women stuck it out because of their complete dependance on a man but nowadays, a cheating husband gets to hit the curb without a problem.
Yes, there is a negative stigma attached to divorce in desi/Muslim circles. Women have a hard time finding a man who will accept them and forget their past. So do families. They dont want a divorced woman...the suspicion always lies on her shoulders. "She must have done something" FOr a man its a TAD easier but not much.
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Higher expectations with less tendency of making necessary compromises often lead to such nixers ....
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Impatience and delusional standards setup by media are other reasons.
Impatience and delusional standards setup by media are other reasons.
explain?
As women progress in their careers and realize their independance, they dont feel the need to "put up" with a bad relationship. There are plenty more fish in the sea! I think before a lot of women stuck it out because of their complete dependance on a man but nowadays, a cheating husband gets to hit the curb without a problem.
Yes, there is a negative stigma attached to divorce in desi/Muslim circles. Women have a hard time finding a man who will accept them and forget their past. So do families. They dont want a divorced woman...the suspicion always lies on her shoulders. "She must have done something" FOr a man its a TAD easier but not much.
Psquared,
Are you saying that women who divorce deal with this stigma and still get divorced anyway?
Also, do you think our attitudes will change as divorce becomes a plausible and higher statistic?
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mainly for women are finding support for themselves so they do not have to take alot of crap that they did earlier on. however it does reflect trubulent social structure. pakistanis are finally escaping indian weird influences in domestic structure which is as good as it can be. more power to women lib!
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Impatience and delusional standards setup by media are other reasons.
explain?
…I think this has to do with a young gal expecting the new hubby to faint at her feet, shower her with gift and song and have no expecations of her… and young guys expecting Anjelina-Jolie-lookalikes with spotlessly shining house, dinner (haute cuisine of course) served when they walk in the door (no matter what the hour), kids polite, quiet and shiny clean etc. etc.
Thats the stuff of bollywood…and surely I keep playing lotto so I can get me some o’ that bollywood stuff lol!
But its far from reality for the very vast majority of us.