Why is it that

[redvelvet]

Re: Why is it that

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when you finally start searching for love, you face with more and more rejections and feel like there is no one left for you?

The more needy you are, the more snubs and other unwelcoming gestures you have to face.

Though very few people admit it as they link it with their ego, but it happens to most youngsters in Pakistan.

Is it becoz of Pakistani culture? or is it our perverted attitudes towards love that keeps us away from it for most part of our lives?

1. Maybe you feel there are “more rejections” because when you go out on an active search for love…it may come across like you’re trying too hard…and that turns people off. People can sense when you’re being natural and when you’re being desperate. What is so wrong with being single for a while and being confident with whom you are as an individual? If anything, that’s an attractive quality that tends to draw others to you.

2. Human nature. Clingy/needy/chipkoo is off-putting. Needy is not attractive and it can be suffocating for the person on the receiving end. If you notice that you’re receiving more snubs…then that’s a start…take that observation to change your behavior and attitude.

3. How do you connect Pakistani culture and perverted attitudes to love? Maybe the individual is on a desperate search for love because something is lacking in their life…in their interactions with their family. Perhaps it is a self-esteem problem. Unrealistic perceptions can either make one chase after love or turn away from it. Turn way from it for most of our lives? That’s an odd assumption…while it may apply to some individuals…you can’t say so for every single person.