Omg I just don’t get some desi families around. They just don’t want to accept others’ success. I mean for instance if I just recently bought a car or gota nice job hmm or something like that ….. some ppl would just go around and try to put u down or like talk about how
this guy who couldn’t even buy a chevy all of sudden has accord now or like oh man u know them they bought a new house out of now where..pretty strange how u could get so much out of you in no time and go on to buy sucha nice house
wot do u guys think? Do u guys come across such stuff in normal life of urz or its just me ? I have been coming across such stuff for some time now and hmm its just doesn’t seem to stop lol….
why is it that ppl from our own community don’t want to accept others succeed in life or live a better life ….doesnt matter by which means u try to make ur life better (obviously lawful though) but it shouldn’t be other’s concern I mean why do they have to talk so much crap about others for?
I don’t know man its just gets crazy sometimes lol. Instead of like being happy about others hmmm like
**oh ya they did buy a new house and ya that’s kinda nice i always wanted this to happen for them **
how come we don’t pass constructive criticism or appreciate other’s hard work or success or accomplishments ……………just a thought, share ur exp!
Well it’s not about individuals or just male vs. female battle. I am talking about desi families as whole. Or may be a group of ppl in particular community who just seem to be exist for certain purpose and that is to make other’s life just hell to say the least.
well ya i understand but its really about not hating this issue but how to overcome it? i mean there is only at times one can so much take and when it does cross limits it really hurts especially when this sorta stuff is seen from you very close friends/relatives and close close ppl whom you have thought of like real good buddies and probably the best ppl around and obviously when in trouble needed their they were their to deliver butttt thennnnnn out of no whereeeeeeeeeeee like just out of blue skyyyyyyyyy they change their behaviour, attitude, and just seem totally different.
well how to deal with this? hmmm some sorta precudure need to be laid down. step by step and just simply follow it loll
its not just a desi thing actually. pretty common in other cultures as well.
these ppl have no lives of their own and are idiots. ignore them, avoide them.
whenever that happens around us, we just wonder through which means they are able to buy that new car or house. if it is some new (legal) way we are not aware, it is just a new source of info. so next time we have to buy a new car, we know what to look for, and to keep away from. it doesn't necessarily have to be about being all jealous and stuff.
suroor and phatima, as far as i know abt jealousy , it was a part of european cultural ettiquettes n moreover as pakis n pakistanis have has been copying them , they had to follow this tradition one way or the other,
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living with hindus n indians made them have a grip n command over backbiting etc.
mohsin , there's no way to get rid of this stuff. i did a big search over this subject for many reasons during my previous life.
the best way out that i found out for myself was going through the 4 QUL daily.
totally agree with 4 QUL..they r the best out there .. talk from exp .. they do help and its not just on one occasion ..........its like on tons of occasions where i really had myself trapped or thought of in massive trouble and wont get out so easily but really it was just the magic of QULs and things worked out in no time...
especially they do help so much b4 writing an exam...i just seem to diong so well in my exams whenever i read them and i end up getting an A+ for most of the times.. its just amazing feeling afterwards...seems like it was all bcz of the QULz even though we had put in so much effort and hard work in order to get through the exam but at the end of day u do feel alot like u did so well bcz of QULz...just sucha nice thing to exp and feel... reallly great...
